What do you think of it ? I'll be honest, I watch porn and I'm not married, however If I do get married one day then I might quit watching, I'd have to think about it
What's your view on porn ?
2007-12-20 07:25:19 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Studies indicate that the majority of incarcerated rapists and child molesters first became addicted to pornography. This indulgence in porn launched in them the perception that females were objects that they could use to please themselves. Eventually, simply viewing images wasn't enough to satisfy their lustful cravings, and later they turned to the commission of criminal sex acts.
None of us is immune to certain addictions. Why play with fire?
2007-12-20 07:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
The right amount of porn is good for every relationship. But some men get carried away and it becomes an obsession which makes their spouse feel fat, ugly and worthless. Husbands should invite wives to watch porn with them. Don't push the porn that gets you off, but ask her what kind of porn would she like (she might surprise you) and then find it together. Before you invite her ask her if she watched porn what would be a turn on for her and what would turn her off, what are some of her fetishes, her fantasies, where and how she would like to be pleasured, this will also help you get to know your wife better. Then shop for porn together, if you have a computer you can do it from the convenience of your home. All of this will make her feel involved, then porn is no longer a his thing, it becomes a us thing. Make her feel a part of your porn life.
We are guys, all we care about is watching a woman naked and then other things, so no matter what type of porn she likes it will have a naked woman in it. Never ever compliment the woman on the screen or compare her with your wife, or tell your wife she should look or dress like that. In fact compliment her and play with her while watching porn together. This will encourage her to play with you when you both are watching it...
Bottom line is that get her involved in it, make is a WE thing, something that we do togheter, rather than something that he does alone when she is sleeping or not at home. You have to compliment her make her feel good about herself and never compare or complain, then she would not mind if sometimes you watched it all alone. Don't fight her, invite her...
2007-12-20 15:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Porn's alright; I have no problem with it as long as it's not an obsession. I watch it occasionally; it's not in my "top 40" favorite things to do or anything - just a casual pastime. Whether it's a bad or a good thing for a relationship depends on the particular relationship. If both people are into it, then it would make it a good thing. If the views are opposite, it can create problems.
2007-12-20 15:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My last question was about this.
My husband and I watch porn together. We have a solid relationship and even more so now because of it. By me opening the door and letting porn into our sex life, I have told him that I trust him and that it's ok to have fantasize. I am not so stupid as to believe that he is going to divorce me because the woman on the DVD can do something I can't. Or that he is suddenly going to stop wanting to have sex with me. After 10 years of marriage, porn is a good way to spice up the sex life.
2007-12-20 15:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by queenbee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't enjoy porn for myself. I find it more funny than arousing. But to each his/her own.
As for being in a relationship and watching porn, that totally depends on the people in the relationship.
Some are confident and secure, and porn can be a wonderful tool to heighten arousal and add a little something extra to your sex life.
However, some are insecure and feel personally disrespected if their partner enjoys porn, or some may feel porn is a replacement, or some may feel that their partner watching porn is a negative reflection on them as a lover.
There's no clear-cut, black and white answer for this.
2007-12-20 15:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by heather_chavous 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What is even the point of watching porn when your married you !!!
And a relationship can never be strong when a family member watches porn !!
2007-12-22 13:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by Fan Depot 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Porn is like a lot of things in life....if you are doing it within the right context, with the right intentions and in moderation it can be a good thing. Too many people place such a negative stigma on it without ever giving it a chance and using it in the right frame of mind. The only thing I would suggest is that in your search for a partner to talk with her and check her views on it as well. It is something that you will need to broach with anyone that you may consider marrying.
2007-12-20 15:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by No one 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I watch porn and I am married...My wife and I will watch a porn movie once in awhile makes for a good night...I watch porn with out my wife...I watched porn before I met my wife...Its just a movie and a fantasy.....usually bad acting a really bad story line and fake girls!!!
2007-12-20 15:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's not a bad thing as long as you control watching it and it doesn't start controling you. It depends a lot more on the individuals involved than whether porn is a good or bad thing. Using it for occasional mutual stimulation is fun, but if you like watching it more than having sex with your partner, then you've got a problem.
2007-12-20 15:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think of it as good or bad for a relationship. And I think that just because someone is married they don't necessarily need to give something up such as that. But I do think communication is key once again. Talking with your partner about how they feel about it and how you feel about it. If it's horribly bothersome to your partner to know that you watch it, then maybe respect their wishes and don't watch it anymore. But if they're okay with it or it's something they'd like to watch with you and if it benefits your intimacy as a couple, then go for it! I don't necessarily think porn is bad provided it's performed by consenting adults and watched by consenting adults.
2007-12-20 15:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you have to give up porn once you get married. I didn't and my marriage is very strong. My wife and I sometime watch together.
2007-12-24 10:52:56 · answer #11 · answered by John D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋