2007-12-20 07:24:30 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can try to pretend like it never happened, but that won't cause you to forget it. Believe me, I have tried to forget something that negatively affected my life, but I still think about it. I guess the best thing to do is learn from that experience and move on with life.
2007-12-20 07:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mind decides that for you. If your mental faculties are such that your brain will not forget something, then obviously you should just "move on with life" and let that experience be a lesson and not a stumbling block. If you can't deal with that incident, then you need psychological help. Go see a doctor and have check book in hand cause it will be $150 per 30 minute session usually twice weekly. I know, been there done that. After $10,000 worth of psychological treatments all I was told was "deal with it and try to block it out of your memory and move on with your life". Dah! I knew that before the first session. So be careful. You don't say what the experience is so I can not relate to why you want to forget it. Life is full of negatives but don't let them become stumbling blocks. Make them spring boards towards a positive move. Guess who gave me that advice -- drunken old man on his last lap around the block and it didn't even cost me a beer.
2007-12-20 07:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can ever forget.
Over 28 years ago I was a victim of a violent crime. I did not seek the counseling that I so desperately needed. So, I spent the next 13 years drunk and in and out of the beds of strangers. I lost my husband who was the only man who ever loved me.
The man was caught and punished. I eventually had to stop drinking when I found myself pregnant and alone at 37. That baby saved my life and he is the light of my life today.
I was young and happy until my life was shattered. I will never forget it but I learned to live with it years ago. I should have had counseling at the time and I may have not been drunk for so many years.
Get some professional help!
2007-12-20 07:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't forget, you learn from it what you can, and you move forward. You are the sum of your experiences, as they do change how you view things over time, as you aquire more knowlege and life experience.
Seeking out support groups, keeping a journal, and sometimes medications and professional help you to get past things that are very difficult and traumatic. But once you have experienced something, frankly you can't Unexperience it...
2007-12-20 07:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by aylatroy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything that happens in life teaches us lessons ....good and bad...I believe from a bad experience there is always something you overlook ...it may be the courage it took to overcome it ...the intelligence to deal with it rationally and not react negatively back...as people have said the incident is over all you have to deal with now are the negative emotions it has left you with..only time will heal you ...and please try and think of the positve things you learned from this ..and appreciate it may have been negative but it taught you something positive
2007-12-20 07:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by pineforestkim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what it is. Try and think of the positives it created, did it make you a stronger person, or more determined. Forgeting it is not going to mean it never happened!! Better off understanding it in order to move on with positive things. Be honest about it and yourself. And realistic!! Take what positives you can from it, and move on.....
2007-12-20 07:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Jabba_da_hut_07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek the positive aspect of the situation, whatever it may be.
There is always some kind of positive no matter how negative things may seem. Look at it as though it's a learning experience, something you grew from that made you more aware of yourself and your surroundings...
Would help to know what it is that negatively affected you.
2007-12-20 07:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by JD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U know it really might help later on even though it might be killing u right now try to find some other people who had the same thing happen and help them also get involved with kids at preschools, kids help alot! i know from what happened to me, they know stuff some how and they really care unlike most adults who give there time to u for ur money and then just not help at all. Friends can help alot to get someone u trust and talk to them if u ever need help I'm here to. hope this helps!
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2007-12-20 07:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Head trauma!
Seriously, not a recommendation, but having had 7 concussions in less than 2 years, I have no memory before age 16. (Nothing bad to forget, just nothing at all)
2007-12-20 07:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by bewerefan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
short answer-> you dont! you just have 2 face the fact that what happened, happened and move on! i know that sounds terrible but ive seen things that happened 2 people i know and you really do have 2 try 2 move on. theres no point dwelling on the past! it will be hard and could take a while but it is the only answer 2 a situation like that. good luck!!
2007-12-20 07:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋