...when guys watch porn? I think it is normal for a guy to watch it.
2007-12-20 07:18:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm a woman and I don't think it's a big deal. Guys are generally more visual than women.
Some women take it too personally. They think they're being compared to the porn stars and let's face it, not many women have the bodies porn stars have.
Guys, if you enjoy porn, make sure your woman knows she's not being compared. Appreciate her and let her know!
2007-12-20 07:27:53 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all women feel that way. Some women enjoy porn themselves. Some women feel disrespected. Some women feel they have to compete with the porn stars for their man's attention. I think it has more to do with the guy than the woman.
Does he watch porn occasionally, or is it all the time? What type of porn does he enjoy - is it "normal" porn, or is it something unusual? Does he make you feel inadequate or compare you to the women in the movie? Does he hide it, or watch it in the open? Does he keep his porn watching private, or does he invite you to join him?
Depending on how the guy acts, can many times determine how the woman reacts.
2007-12-20 07:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by heather_chavous 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I hear women whining and complaining about their husbands watching porn all the time. Boo hoo, he was looking at a dirty mag. Boo hoo he will have unrealistic expectations of me now. Not me. As long as it doesn't consume a mans life, and turn into an addiction I say what man doesn't like to watch some T & A without having to do any work. And sometimes I watch with him, it keeps things interesting.
2007-12-20 07:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by Jen N 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple: men and women view the impact of porn differently. men tend to be more visual; and women more emotional concerning sex. that doesn't mean, however that women don't like porn and men can't be emotional, but the basic differences may have some part to play in it.
i think many women think guys who view porn regularly are devoid of emotion and unable to view women IRL as something more than 2-D images on a screen. also, the images in porn clearly give a skewed impression of what real sex is: the women are usually young, beautiful, and willing to do anything sexually. they don't get bloated, have periods, get pregnant, have stretchmarks, or other "normal" things that happen to the female body.
these images, to many women, are contrary to what they see in real life. and, many women feel as if they are being compared to the actors on the screen and can't measure up.
in addition, some men (who are in relationships) watch porn and masturbate as a preference to being with their partners. many women find this insulting and emotionally upsetting, similar to an affair.
in a nutshell, anytime you are introducing sex that involves others (even if it's a DVD or website), some women will find this offensive.
2007-12-20 07:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by tish 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the type of porn.....some of that stuff can be very offensive-beastiality, "almost" children, violent acts, or content that is just outright wrong! What I can't stand is when I see porno with a "woman" that is supposed to be at least 20 years old, but looks more like 14-not because I'm jealous of her, or insecure, but because exploitation in any form is just wrong. And, men misuse porn, hide porn, and their own behavior about their porn issues make it guilty for themselves-if women shouldn't make a big deal about it, if its just normal, why do men act like its not? I have no problem with my man's seeing porn, have joined him in it, but, when porn replaces intimacy between a man and his woman-that's when its not right. JMO
2007-12-20 07:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I can see watching the stuff when you are single and have no broads in your life but if you are J%^$$ing off to porn more than you are with your gf/wife there is a friggin problem. IF thats the case than thats why woman get bothered.
Do want the fantasy or the real thing?
2007-12-20 07:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by kakeydec 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't, but otherwise it's probably mostly insecurity. The dominant pop culture is geared toward women feeling the need to be perfect (as hollywood and music defines it) and watching porn may make some women feel like they are not good enough thus you feel the need to look at other women in a sexual manner.
2007-12-20 07:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by skelleton_dance 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i used to not care about it. then my husband started cutting me off from sex and i find out he was watching it every single day. see my previous answer to another question on this subject. and no i did not let myself go and get ugly and i am always in the mood for sex and i am more wild and adventerous then he is. i have to beg him to get rough with me, try new things, role play, etc. he likes regular, boring, predictable sex. this is why i feel it is negative and am upset about him watching it. tell me, why would he want to have sex with me when he can have anything he wants on the internet. so now im lonely with noone to take care of my needs and it sucks cuz i get hit on all the time but since im married i guess i cant do anything about it. so i have to settle for once in a blue sex while he gets off to porn everyday. does that sound fair to you?
2007-12-20 07:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a big deal. I expect that...I DID walk in once on an ex watching and doing his thing...I don't really care for THAT but otherwise it's all good.
2007-12-20 07:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by laura1977 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay let me put it this way Do you like woman telling you, you're not good enough, you don't look good, that we would rather see something sick than spend a night with you? I didn't think so and it maybe normal to you, but it isn't okay for some of us. It is just plain out offensive.
2007-12-20 07:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋