My husband and I haven't had sex in a month. I have a high sex drive and I am getting frustrated that he is never in the mood. He told me he thinks it is because he is so stressed out. Is that normal or common? Is he cheating on me?
2007-12-20 07:05:01 · 31 answers · asked by Steph 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's normal, but not good. He needs to manage his stress and satisfy his wife.
2007-12-20 08:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by mjmayer188 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure stress can play a lot with how men feel towards sex about the same as women. As different as they are(men & women) that is one common ground. Now I'm not stepping outside nor do I think she is. It has been almost two yrs since we have slept in the same bed and or I have or she has touched one another in any way shape or form. I can't nor will speak for her but I will admit when I have the urge, and need to relieve the stress I will go and do my thing(yes masturbate until I bust a nut)now if you want to say I'm stepping out go ahead. does she do that I have no idea but if she does OK. I would love to help out but until then I'll just have to wait.
We are seeing a cousler on other matters that I'm sure lead up to our current disfuction. As for me I have had three brain surgerys both my folks have passed in the last three yrs, as for her, she lost a brother and mother, she is also an RN to which working on spinal cord rehab. So do you see any stress in our life? I did not say any thing about three kids one has moved out not married one grandchild, two teen boys still here until this summer at least one and still one more to go. Stress not much more than any other real family here in the good old USA.
2007-12-20 07:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by Yogi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,some men do lose their sex drive during stressful times.Some men get to the point to where no matter how hard they try it wouldn't help matters much.Find out what the problem or cause is and then you two can try to correct it,that may take some time.But if you feel that he is cheating,take him to a doctor first.
2007-12-20 17:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by pedebeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is lying, he is cheating on you. Check his cell phone records, work cell phone too. Check all his email addesses even at work. Sorry but here are the facts of life:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins all relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. I don't lie.
2007-12-20 07:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal. I am not a man, but I know . My husband is never in the mood when he is stressed. I think it goes for women too. I am not in the mood when something is pressing on my mind, or I am kinda stressed. No, he isnt cheating on you. Give him his space, let him deal with his stress, and clear his mind. Then the lovemaking will fall back into place. Dont nag about it, stress kills everything.
Be understanding, and patient .
2007-12-20 07:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Beautiful_1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No.
Men don't lose their sex drive, even on a hospital bed, if the nurse is cute. "Cheating" is always an EASY ANSWER for you to actually want, here... because it implies that you haven't anything to do with it, and bear no responsibility.
It's YOU - if you're not taking care of yourself. It's HIM, if you are and he's just avoiding you. He's just not into you, and it may not be your fault... don't blame yourself, blame him. It's fairly common -- when the sizzle leaves, and one of you just didn't realize it leaving, all along.
2007-12-20 07:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is cheating, if I absolutely had to guess, but you should really look into it. Straight out ask him if he is cheating on you. Make sure no one else is around, make sure he is not looking at the TV, look right into his eyes and ask and you can learn a lot from his reaction.
btw, my husband wants it more when he is stressed, but I don't mean like his home is being foreclosed or his mother died stress.
2007-12-20 07:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely yes. I am in my mid-thirties, and I am just now really understanding that. I used to feel so upset & threatened with past boyfriends, if I slept over and they didn't make "the move". thought I was losing my appeal, they weren't excited or attracted, etc.
My boyfriend now made me understand that when he is stressed, he loses his drive for sex- but it sure comes back! I don't get upset anymore or take it personally. I ride it out a few days or weeks most times, and he comes back full force. : )
Now if you see your man lose his sex drive for monthS, there may be deeper issues............hang in and see if he bounces back.
2007-12-20 07:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by HRgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look first of all your husband like a lot of men may have a medical problem with low testerole. Noone really knows what causes this but lots of men get an injection once a month and are also on medication like cialis or viagra. Have your husband go to the doctor and they can do bloodwork to determine if there is a medical problem. Sounds like it is.
2007-12-20 07:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex husband is the same way. I still live with him, I work with him, I sleep in the same bed with him. We're together all the time, so I know he's not sleeping with anyone else. He could be perfectly happy only having sex once a month. Or every two months.
After we got divorced he lost a good paying job, and now he's worried about not being able to pay his mortgage. He said he's just so stressed and worried about money he doesn't have time to think about sex. He's working with me, he's a mortgage broker, a real estate agent, and he goes to college part time.
We're divorced, and I have a boyfriend. He doesn't mind as long as I shower and come to bed with him.
2007-12-20 07:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by daeraelle 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stress works a mess with a man. He may not even be able to perform. See if you can do something to lessen his stress level. If it is financial, get together with him to work on a budget and maybe get some kind of part-time job to help with the expenses. You know why he is stressed. See if you can help in some way. Then it will get better.
2007-12-20 07:09:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋