I dont know who I am I'm busy trying to be what everyone else wants I lost myself how can I find myself again
2007-12-20 07:00:56 · 19 answers · asked by Lynn 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i am so sorry to read that You feel lost..... If i may suggest that You begin by taking back control and become a dominate force in Your relationship. Ask for things You want to do and have.
Rather saying no, as S/some suggested here, continue to try to be what everyone else wants - BUT also make that same demand on O/others. That is, make T/them into what You want T/them to be... Very quickly You will have the dominate role (as You should) and will feel better about Yourself.
2007-12-21 00:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by sAm cbt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get your self a journal, start writing things down that you like and things that you don't like.
When people ask if you want to do something that you really don't want to do. start saying NO instead of saying yes to please them.
Take a few minutes each day and shut yourself away from everyone and do what ever you want to do. If you are married. tell your family you want 1 hour privacy and no one under any circumstances has to bother you( unless the house is burning down) then do what ever YOU want to do with that hour.
Take walks in the park( with your dog if you have one)
Walk through town by yourself,. you don't have to talk to a single person if you don't want to.
Relax and take in the rest of the world.
You'll find you'll clear your mind of trivial things and be able to think more clearly. so next time someone says "Hey let's do this or that" you'll feel confident enough with who you are to say what you really want. and soon you;ll calm down and start to find out who you really are. and if you don't like who you are then you can change yourself image and become who you'd like to be.
2007-12-20 07:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I called information and asked the operator that question. She said that number doesn't exist. LOL Pleasing others "is" what you do. You are co-dependant. We all are. If you want to cut off your fix you must divorce yourself from others. I do not recommend doing this. We .....are a social animal. You are a caring person. Just don't hurt yourself trying to help someone else. Otherwise, someday, you will not be able to anymore.
2007-12-20 07:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by Juk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and do things for yourself. Who cares about what other people want? It's all you--this is your life and possibly the only one you'll ever get. These people probably won't be around you in ten years so why even bother? If they don't like what you do, then they aren't worth it.
Take deep breathes--everything will be okay. Just stop worrying stupidly about everyone else. =D
2007-12-20 07:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello im sorry about how you feel, but u havent lost yourself. Yourself is just hiding right now. That does happen to everyone and thats part of making you you. I mean if you did'mt make misatkes you wouldnt know or be anything. But just say what you wanna do say what you wanna be, and dont let others make the choice for you becaue it will be a big mistake and you will regret it, so listen to your heart and follow it, pretend theres NO ONE ELSE, your all by yourself. Who's gonna make the choice now?!?!?!?!? YOU ARE!
2007-12-20 07:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Happens to me alot.I want to be the scholarly boy of my childhood but most of the cool people of freshman year are flunkees.I want to try sports but i feel scared if i fail(and i do)others will laugh and from this fear i cannot give my all.I wanna be nice to everyone but other start treating me like a doormat.I am lost too.How can i find myself?I can't answer myself i can't so i can't answer you.If you find a good answer e-mail me.
peace out,sign out
yours truly,
Luizi
2007-12-20 07:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore what others tell you. Focus on your individuality, because clothing, music, style, and idealogy are not who you are. Try to be more involved with yourself. Don't be a hermit, but take some alone time and you will discover what was lost.
2007-12-20 07:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by The Great Ferguni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stand up and say no more, next time someone pushes over you and makes you think about anyone but you.. do the oppisite of that. when doing things in life first think about who they r for and why you are doing them then dicide if you should. if you start doing things like that, then youll know what you want in life and can start to find yourself again good luck
2007-12-20 07:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take some time to relax, and to find yourself. Don't try to fit into what others want you to be. Just be you, even if you're not sure right now who you are.
2007-12-20 07:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by Matthew C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I zone out continuously and stare off into area. human beings will arise and start up chatting with me and would desire to get my interest for me to take heed to them. I additionally pass sparkling if i'm listening to good song, staring at a good movie or television teach and that i'm somewhat undesirable if i'm interpreting something i admire.
2016-10-09 00:07:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋