Married in georgia 6 years
Husband currently deployed
Husband decided he wants out of the marriage.
Says he fell out of love with me.
I am stay at home mother to 1 1/2 year old child.
I have always worked before and during our marriage.
I only quit to care for our baby.
I also quit another job to follow him on deployment.
He currently reenlisted for 6 years without telling me.
He gets back in 3 months.
What are my options?
What can I ask for from him?
What might I be able to get?
He just received a $12,000 reenlistment bonus...
am I entitled to any of that -- seeing how its currently in our account and we are technically not divorced yet?
What wouldbe the result in your best guess?
I want to go to computer school, and I dont mind getting a job
Ive always worked.
DOES HE HAVE TO HELP ME GET BACK ON MY FEET
or is it once the divorce is final, Im completely tossed aside?
2007-12-20 06:44:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From what I understand, the military does make sure that any man in his position take care of his responsibilities. Contact the nearest military base and ask for the Family Support Office, and talk to them.
2007-12-20 06:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a miitary wife you have access to free counsel thru the military branch. It would be best to wait until he is back to start any paperwork, but legal counsel can help you when that happens....if you get there first.Everything he is earning is part of the marriage settlement at this point...so dont jeopardize that. He will have to pay alimony AND support/medical for the child as well. Use this time to get it clear in your head about what you want and what you will do next for employment, school and finances. Set aside some money now, too. Any joint accts you have access to, you are able to take from at this point. Good luck to you.
2007-12-20 06:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are close. The guarantor is the manufacturer, not the retail store. The manufacturer should describe the procedures for making a claim. For instance, it could say simply return the unused portion to our factory along with the originl receipt, etc. Sears has a sign over the door that says "satisfaction guaranteed or your money back." The u.s FTC decided decades ago that slogan was an absolute guarantee and if you buy something at sears and return it years later, with the receipt, and say that you are not satisfied, then you are entilted to get your money back. The same would apply in your hypothetical case except that the retail store is not the guarantor, so you would have to deal with the company that made the guarantee.
2016-05-25 04:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Half of that money is yours, you need proof of him getting it prior to your legal separation. He will owe you child support, of course, and will have to help you get onto your feet, sonce you currently have no income and have been stayinf home since the birth of your baby. You will have to work, but he will help. The fact that he has reenlisted at least gives you a steady income to get child support.
Not sure about whether or not Georgia is a no-fault state. He may owe alimony as well.
Contact an attorney ASAP.
2007-12-20 07:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to a divorce lawyer in your state. He can't just throw you overboard. He will have to pay child support. What about his family? Do they love you and the baby? If you are uncertain, start a quick relationship with them right now so they will be on your side. I don't know if there is another woman involved in fact it kind of sounds like he may be depressed.....and wants better for you and the baby. Ask some questions of a divorce lawyer and find out your options. He won't expect you to know anything. He can't just tell you what he what and won't do after the divorce. The best idea is to get his family on your side. Send them lots of pics of the baby. Call them to tell them about her. Get going at this today.
2007-12-20 06:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your entitled to half of everything. So you would be entitled to 6K of the 12K unless that is used for household expenses. Since your husband wants out of the marriage you have to think about supporting yourself. He will have to pay child support. I would tell him that because he wants a divorce you are taking the money in the account to use for school because you want to provide a good life for you and your child. You are entitled to half of his pension. Get yourself a lawyer too. He will have to pay for your lawyer. Whatever you do...do not do this without a lawyer. Your lawyer will be paid by your joint assets. Trust me...HAVE A LAWYER.
2007-12-20 06:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by transpersonalpsychologist 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would take all the money and put into an account in a different bank in your name only.
Put it into 2 separate savings accounts. DO THIS NOW
Out of one account use it to move out, if your on base, and get your own place where you want. Get all the Dr. visits for you and your child done NOW
If I were you I would move close to your family, but get moved while the military will pay for it.
Then go to an atty. and pay him outta the same account as you used to move, if the military didn't pay for it.
You need to keep receipts for everything you spent. Once this starts you'll probably have to move off base anyhow. so do it now.
The other $6000.00 shouldn't be touched until you talk to your atty.
Hope this helps
2007-12-20 06:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES! he will have to pay child support and alimony. I also live in GA and the child support law changed on Jan 1, 2007 to calculate both parents income to determine the amount the non-custodial parent will have to pay. Since, you are not working, this shouldn't effect you too much right now. You should start getting yourself prepard for what you will need to do to seperate yourself from him. Email me with any other questions or if you need to talk. Good luck.
2007-12-20 06:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by ameri0903 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes your are entitled...as a member of the military they will make sure that he takes care of his "dependents" I would go to your nearest Military installation and go to its legal office to find out what to do...and if you want to be spiteful, take half of that retention bonus and put it in an account of your own or for your child....that's what it should be for anyway. Best of luck to you. :)
2007-12-20 07:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by BabyGirlK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you best bet is to get a lawyer, they are the only one that can really answers these questions. especially with it being a military divorce. i don't know if they are different. usually, once the divorce is final, unless he has to pay child support for you child and spousal support for you, you are on your own. that's why you ask for all you can in the divorce.
2007-12-20 06:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋