i have been married for 6 years but i have been seeing an ex boyfriend and i really like him and want to leave him . should i leave my husband for him?
2007-12-20 06:22:16 · 23 answers · asked by SEXYCHICK2008 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just to add to the story my husband has cheated on me before and he doesnt always treat me how i like. he has hit me before. so hes not an angel like u are thinking.
2007-12-20 07:31:41 · update #1
Wanting to leave and actually doing are not one in the same. Sounds to me like you have been thinking about leaving for a while but never had a good excuse to do it. When someone shows interest in you makes everything a whole lot easier. Believe me it is easy because it makes you feel good about yourself and gives you the self esteem that one loses when they are not happy, I lived through it. Separated for 6 mos., had someone take interest in me that gave me a boost, and the next thing I know my husband called and we reconciled. Things have been great, and I probably let my heart get in the way but there must be one good reason why you are still with your husband, a silly little thing called LOVE
2007-12-20 06:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by ????? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to really think about why you are with your husband and why your ex is an ex to begin with. That should clear up some of your doubts or give you some real reasons on why you should leave your husband. But you shouldn't leave your husband just because you like someone. But it is wrong to be cheating on him.
2007-12-20 06:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by PRINCESS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't leave your husband for another man. You get rid of the other man and do your damnedest to make a good marriage.
If you are married, you made a binding promise, in front of witnesses, and in front of god, if you believe in god, to be with your husband for life, no matter what. You knew what that promise meant and you made that promise voluntarily. You have the obligation and the moral duty to continue to maintain that commitment. The only reasons that promise should ever be broken is if your husband (a) commits adultery or deserts you, or (b) engages in behavior that is an actual danger to you or to your children. Just because you "really like" another man is not grounds to break that promise.
2007-12-20 07:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by quamquamsidere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only your heart knows who you should be with, but your ex is and ex for a reason. You broke up because your relationship was broken. To expect it to be fixed is naive. The fact that you are cheating AND debating on whether you should leave your husband shows you left the marriage LONG ago. He deserves someone who loves him and you are NOT that person. You should definately leave, as he deserves better than what you are providing.
2007-12-20 06:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband you wouldn't want to see anyone else or cheat on him. It's not fair to your husband that you're being unfaithful. If I were you, I would save your husband the pain and let him know what's going on right away so that he can get out of the marriage with a woman who obviously didn't respect the commitment.
2007-12-20 06:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think that marriage is a commitment and should not be left lightly. Talk with your husband and express your problems and try and work them out, get some counseling if necassary. If that does not work then get a divorce before you move on with another man. Another option would be to see if your husband would be OK with letting you see other men, but be very careful when he starts to see other women. Good luck!
2007-12-20 06:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to stop and think for a moment about what you feel and what is reality. Why did you and your ex break up? Do you not care about your husband anymore? Do you think that maybe you need to be alone for a while to find out what you really want?
2007-12-20 06:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by ameri0903 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, yes. Definitely you're very much in "like" with your ex-boyfriend. "Like" is what makes the world go round. There is nothing better than being so in "like" with another person that you leave your MARRIAGE with someone you're supposed to be in LOVE with, eh?
On the other hand, I think you'd fit in quite well on an episode of Jerry Springer, hey you'll even be famous for being someone who left her husband and her marriage because she was so in "like" with someone else!
2007-12-20 06:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave your husband for YOU. Obviously you don't love your husband if you can fall into like with an ex that wronged you so easily. Do your hubby a favor and exit.
2007-12-20 06:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by Marina 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't look for people to express a high opinion of you. If you've got kids, you ought to be flogged, and he ought to have total custody. If you don't, then I wouldn't blame your husband if he divorced you and left you without a cent.
OK, so your husband is an ***. Deal with that, first. Divorce him if that's what's called for. But don't give him ammunition to abuse you even more if that's what you're in fear of.
2007-12-20 06:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by colder_in_minnesota 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋