and well... last week after our exams she came over to party with me and two of my roommates. Well we had a lot of fun but she spent the night and slept in my bed. The problem is... she really wanted to have sex with me. I threw her off of me because i didn't want to lose my virginity at the time (even though i find her really attractive... and lets be real guys... that is ultimate bragging rights, sounds a little sick... but its the truth). Now things between us are a little awkward. I think she actually liked me... but when i threw her off me it told her that i wasn't into a relationship. I would love to date her... but because she is a lesbian that doesn't really make sense... Should i just talk to her about all this?
2007-12-20 06:19:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes, talk and say exactly what you said here.
2007-12-20 06:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by d_v8ion 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first the whole threw her off situation is kind of harsh , and maybe she finds u attractive, which in that case does not classify her as a lesbian maybe bi or just plan sexual if she does not "want" to classify herself. but I totally agree that u should talk to her u would not want it to get so awkward that u guys stop talking all together over this. let her know how u feel about her and the situation that occurred...
2007-12-20 15:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by SexToy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can understand your confusion because you wonder how she can be attracted to you in that way she is only supposed to like girls. these days a number of people are bi-sexual and some are trying to find that balance between men and women. or she may have been testing the water to see if she was really into girls as much as she initially thought. Because i have two friends that are bi-sexual and they at first stuck to strickly being lesbian won't touch a man with a 20ft pole. but now both are in straight relationships with men.It's crazy though because it's like some days even now they are lesbians one day and straight the next i give up.
2007-12-20 14:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Miss Miracle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WEIRD situation...
well of course u shouldn't have sex with a lesbian
try to talk to her and tell her how much you love her as your best friend and that you want to have sex with a straight woman ... you can also tell her how attractive she is and that she will soon find a lesbian woman to have sex....
Friendship is different from sex and a relationship...
Try to explain her how important she is for u as a friend...
2007-12-21 08:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by ....................... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is she lesbian if shes attracted to a guy then?
I thought the term was when you like the same sex your apprently "gay"..
ever consider shes not a lesbian?
Was she drinking?
I think you should sit her down and talk
2007-12-20 14:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is no lesbian! No lesbian would even try and sleep with an guy, the thought repluses them. She's bi, speak to her about it. She may think your not intrested in her but show you are, you did the right thing throwing her off, she'll respect you more for it.
2007-12-20 14:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she may be confused about who she is right now. I give you lots of props for not taking advantage of her!!! It takes a real man to do that. And, she will def respect you for that. Talk to her about how you feel. Chances are she might feel the same way. They say that your true feelings come out when you are intoxicated.
2007-12-20 14:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should talk to her about it. A friend is a friend and she shared with you a very intimate bit of knowledge about her. Don't judge - be cool. Discovering your sexuality and how you are going to express it is one of the toughest rites of passage from childhood to adulthood.
2007-12-20 14:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by brianjames04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh, just talk to her! She may be bisexual not a lesbian. Hey the only thing you can do is talk to her.
Good Luck xx
2007-12-20 14:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by Chloe! x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*cough* well first off you "threw her off" of you, that sounds terrible, this girls an attractive lesbian (although after that maybe bi?) and you thow her off of you. why dont you talk to her and explain yourself better.
2007-12-20 14:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by NONAME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably is bi ! Talk to her and maybe she does want to date you! It could just be a phas she's going through. Give her a chance.
2007-12-20 14:42:07 · answer #11 · answered by Kirby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋