When arguing with your husband, do you take it to the limit...?

Question

...because you KNOW he's not gonna hit you? In other words, do you use that as leeway to do whatever it takes to win the argument?

Answer 1

I have a temper so does my husband. We've both been bad in terms of what we do to each other. I never do anything that I don't expect to be dished back to me. If I give it bad, I expect it back.

I understand what you're saying tho, and it can be frustrating for anyone to keep their cool when getting pushed to their limit and someone shouldn't be shocked when you blow b/c you've given them warning.

Answer 2

For members that are currently playing at home, I'd like to advise you that playing to win in a marital argument will damage your relationship like you wouldn't believe.

No, I don't do whatever I possibly can to win an argument. That's sort of George Bush-like, isn't it? You know, he always has to be right and have all the power, no matter what. At any rate, my birthfather threatened to kill me during an argument when I was 14, so I don't push people because that's always in the back of my mind.

Answer 3

So to summarize. You guys argue... You say you are going to sleep with other men. Both of you start slapping the crap out of each other.. try talking to each other again and Rinse and Repeat. You spent all time typing up the event that lead to your divorce but really nothing about the "money, family, and sex especially after marriage" issues you mentioned at the beginning of the question. Those are the key issues!!! Everything else is a symptom of those issues. The fact you guys can't talk to each other about those basic issues tells me you guys were not ready for marriage and better of alone for a while to grow up.

Answer 4

so many people think arguing is a game where one person wins and the other loses. Therefore you must argue until one of you is beat down. Immature!!! Consider this. Would you rather be happy, or right. If the answer is right, then you don't deserve to be happy, and at that point push the limit. If you want to be happy then learn to discuss diferences of opinion without name calling or physical threats.

Answer 5

I never try to take any negative situation to the limit. It can be very damaging to the relationship, and that type of plan often backfires. Besides, you can never guarantee how someone else will react and, once someone does resort to violence, it becomes a "viable" form of behavior for any future arguments.

There are much more mature ways of handling disagreements.

Answer 6

No I'm a very uh passive person my hubby and I rarely fight, I mean I have only raised my voice to him ONCE and he's never raised his voice to me. Mostly we just kind of bicker and then if we are very angery we both sit there in silence seething at each other

Although I used to date this guy and I was like that with him I was praying he would hit me so I could have him arrested and get him out of my life!!!

Answer 7

I don't ever yell at my hubby.....but I have a habit of saying round about phrases in a mean and manipulative way.

It doesn't help either. I cannot win an argument with my husband so I don't try....I don't want to be right I just want him to see my perspective.

Answer 8

You know I used to be like that until I realized that you can never underestimate anyone because you will be amazed at what type of accidents can happen. I always thought a certain person wouldn't hit me until I took it to far one day and he literally hit me and I couldn't do anything because I pushed it.

Answer 9

I never push a man or anyone for that matter. Everyone has a breaking point. And trust me, you don't KNOW that he isn't going to hit you....you don't know what any persons snapping point is.
Constant confrontation is no way to live.

Answer 10

we actually stopped arguing many moons ago..
we talk about things but I know I can't win cuz he walks away if I cry or yell and he knows he can't win cuz I will get a sharp object out..
Seriously I can't remember the last argument around our house