Do you think marriage is still as important today?

Question

Or do you think it is old fashioned and not worth bothering about?

Answer 1

Marriage is not a bed of roses and every marriage has its ups and downs. Anyone who has been married for more than a couple of years (I have been married 32 years)knows, keeping a marriage together requires work and commitment . Unfortunately that lesson seems to be the one that is missing today as more and more people spring from broken marriages. These people have no role model and what they saw was as the going gets tough the solution is to leave and move on . The fact that this decision to place ones self above the other and any children is a selfish act is missed entirely. These seem to be the people who believe they are entitled to a life of perpetual happiness and indulgence that requires no sacrifice by them. Enduring marriages rest on the belief that commitment is required, personal sacrifice is required, and that for those who are willing to give up anything for the other partner, then nothing must be given up. Marriage is not a fifty-fifty proposition and on any given day it may be 90-10, but over time it works out to be a true partnership.

Answer 2

Not according to the laws and legislation that has been passed over the course of the last 30+ years. I think right now in this country and abroad, marriage & having children is a scary proposition. Today, the divorce rate is so high due to no-fault divorce. If you have kids, for women - that means they hold all the cards. A man today has to realize that, love and "the dream" aside, the risks to men/fathers far outweigh the rewards. Check the source - some great books and other resources on just this issue. Family court is tilted heavily in favor of women/mothers. Moms have all the rights, get all the benefits, and dad is too often relegated to a visitor in his children's lives while being an ATM machine for mom. He can lose half (or more) of the cash, cars, house, investments, etc... and worse - the children. Seriously, if I had known then what I know now about how the divorce machine sucks in fathers, grinds them up, and spits them out so unceremoniously, I would have never gotten married. I would have given up my dream of having a family. With no-fault divorce (the biggest killer of marriage and families) you don't need an excuse anymore to get a divorce. You just don't have to feel like being married anymore - and with that reality comes the truth - a marriage is no longer a contract, so what's the point except to put yourself and your future at risk when someone "doesn't feel like it anymore?" With women (who have children) initiating almost 3/4 of divorces today (most men don't even see it coming), it's the smart man who chooses not to get married and certainly not have children... and that's a shame.

Answer 3

I personally think marriage is still an important and essential social value today, but I feel as though I am in the minority. People get married today knowing that they can get a divorce if they need to. That mindset if unfortunate and disregards the meaning of marriage (forever).

Answer 4

I don't think it's old fashioned, I was married and was with my ex for 21 years it's a long time in a bad marriage. He remarried only I will not get married again, my choice. My son lives with his partner of 9 years with 2 children, my daughter lives with her partner and I think is getting married in 2009. It's very easy to get married but damn hard to get out of it more so if the other partner is not cooperative in my case my ex as it took a few years for him to sign the papers.

Answer 5

I think it's still as important as today, but I do feel like more people are rushing into marriage for the wrong reasons. Not enough people are thinking about what it means to be married which is why the divorce rate is so high.

I've been married two years, four months, and 9days.

Answer 6

I think marriage is very important. I don't want to be alone and I think a majority of people don't want to be alone. I think you should have someone you can count on, feel security when you are with, someone you can share the feeling of love with, etc. I'm not married, however, I hope to be someday real soon.

Answer 7

Marriage probably means more to a woman than to a man,after all,it will be her big day.It still has its place in society,but living together is not thought of the same way,but i would still like to think marriage Carry's just as much merit as it used to.

Answer 8

well my GLW and i have been married for 23 years(together for 28) and it's still important to us
you have to work at it every day, never coast along, its the silly little everyday things you do for each other that are the important things, grand gestures are easy, so yes, it;s important, but never a bother

Answer 9

Mmm can i contradict myself, I believe in marriage in a perfect world, but it terrifies me, I have a fantastic 10year relationship with my fella, but I would be scared of ruining it, by us feeling like we don't have to try anymore.. I look at my parents, and am convinced that they would both be happier with different people/ or alone, I look at my friends parents who have split up after many years of trouble and sorrow, I look at my best friend who is unhappy in her marriage but won't walk away 'cos she's married and you have to work at it' but she is a shadow of her former self, so me? I have found a relationship that seems to work great (99% of the time) so I don't want to risk it, just for a bit of paper, and vows which seem to mean nothing (to a lot of people anyway) .. so yes ideally marriage is fantastic.. but not for me thank's xx

Answer 10

i think it's important, but that's only since i met my husband. even years ago people were getting divorced. it's nothing new. i was reading a bit about laurel and hardy today. stan laurel was married 5 times and oliver hardy was married 3.