I was engaged to this man who I thought was a wonderful man. Until I went to the doctors and we found out that I would never have kids. So he decided that he couldn't get married due to this so we parted ways and about 2 years later I met my now husband of 6 years who loved me despite of this and guess what out of the blue one day I thought I had the flu and the doctor said that my dream had come true. We were expecting and through a long and ruff road ahead of us we had a baby girl. I recently saw my ex and he asked who's baby was I holding and I replied this is my daughter. It seemed like his heart dropped and he said take care of her. What do you think he felt?
2007-12-20 05:56:42 · 15 answers · asked by Debbie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust me I am over him and have no feelings for him at all! It's just nice to know that he is suffering as much as I did when we split that's all.
2007-12-20 06:11:43 · update #1
People who truly, deeply love each other, don't breakup over something like that. There are so many other ways--
A friend of mine was married to a man who had a drinking problem. They were in a car accident, which left her unable to have kids. When they recovered, he left her, saying, because they couldn't have kids, but she knew it was from his guilt over the accident. Well, a couple years passed, and she met this really great guy, and got married. They applied to adopt, and were scraping for the money to do so, when the first husband was killed in a single vehicle accident. He had never, even after 9 years, changed the beneficiary of his insurance. So my friend's ex-husband, after all them years, ultimately paid for her adoption of two children.
Just thought I'd share it. God knew what he was doing with them, and he knows what he is doing with you. Bless you all.
2007-12-20 06:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... Sounds like maybe he was kinda touched. Happy for you that your dreams have come true. Even if they were not with him. Its always sad, when something like THIS kind of FATE can keep you from being with someone you care so much for. To be completly honest with you, I was at the store the other day, and ran into an ex who is totally STERILE, and he knew I wanted to have children someday. Due to other circumstances, we broke up. However, he saw me with my son, and we didnt say anything to one another, but looked at me, and had a weird kind of a smile on his face. Like a smile you give someone when you see them make a difference in another persons life... (does this make sense?) We both exchanged smiles. And that was it. But I think sometimes men look at the PAST, and think... Maybe they think if they had done something different, than things could have worked out. He could very well be sorry he lost you, as he should be. As Im sure all men, in some way or another get upset they loose a loved one.
That said, I actually have never been told, Quote on Quote I cannot have kids, but in my more WILD days, had a lot of sex with men, NEVER got pregnant. And with my sons father I was dating him for a very small period of time, and immediately got pregnant. Hmm... Funny the way things can work out. It was not an easy road...
I dont think in anyway you want him back. But Im sure if you both had known what you know now, that wisdom would have made you both think twice before throwing in the key. Im sure after he saw you, he thought to himself for a moment, then like most men, he went on with his daily day! Men always think about things, like I wonder what would have happened. Sometimes they regret the mistakes they have made, other times, they just wonder.
All in all, he was probablly just stunned to see a baby you were able to create, after thinking it wasnt possible.
Happy Holidays!
2007-12-22 12:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by BKR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations first. Doctors are not always right.
However, I'm sorry to say, you sound like the one that has not forgiven this incident
To many people, the commitment of children is very important. Your ex had this strong pull for a child that was important for him. As for how he felt, probably hurt that he was not with you and happy for you as you were given a child.
2007-12-20 06:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by Manitou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 03:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty low...and he felt bad...I wouldn't say sorry that he lost you necessarily, but feel bad for being selfish.
At least he felt bad, when it happened to me and my X found out...he assumed it was a one night stand because no one would want a woman who can't get PG. Literally this is what he told me....yeah very good example of why he became the X.
2007-12-20 06:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep I would guess he is sorry he lost you. I know I was sorry I lost the most wonderful girl in the world. Her name happened to be Debbie to.
Congratulations on being a mom.
2007-12-20 06:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by mikeae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter what he thinks? Obviously his love for you wasn't strong enough for him to stay with you...despite the fortunately wrong information you were given at the time about your inability to have children...Congratulations by the way!
2007-12-20 06:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope he regrets it so bad. That serves the sorry piece of sh*t right. And good for you that you found someone better and did have a child.
2007-12-20 06:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow,,,Now,,this is one of the best questions I have found here.....Wow,,I think you have been in his thoughts ever since. We, humans, make decisions sometimes that later on come back and hunt us. He promised to be with you for better or for worse,,When he faced the "worse",,he ran,,,,Now he have to live with his regret!,,,,
2007-12-20 06:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He feels guilty and hurt. Everything happens for a reason.
2007-12-20 06:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by pinkythediamond 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋