It has been a few days and I am starting to feel alright again. How did you get through it?
2007-12-20 05:51:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It was very difficult because the guy started stalking me and I was absolutely terrified. After trying to make my life H*LL, I finally told him I'd had enough and that if he didn't stay away from me I would call the cops. Also in my case it helped because when i said this I wa saround a group of loving and supporting friends and one of the other women after she heard the guy had beaten me, walked up to him and started wailing on him... she was about his size. She screamed at him about how easy it is to hurt someone when they are smaller than you but its alot tougher if they are your equal or bigger. After he was finally gone, I felt relieved. I could take a walk and come home without the fear of being accuses of so and so and then etting beaten up. It felt wonderful to have my freedom. Unfortunately though, it was not just physical abuse I went through... but mental and emotional as well. This relationship took place over 7 years ago, but I still feel the emotional bruises and I still have a very low self esteem because of it. With my husbands love and support though, i am strating to heal however slowly. But each time I notice that I feel better about myself, the happier and more hopeful to a better future opinion of myself i have.
I honestly think that my family and my friends were how I got through the relationship and the break up alive... if it were not for their help, love, support, comfort, and protection.... who knows.....
The hardest thing though is to stay away, especially if you have been conditioned to think you don't deserve any better. Good for you for getting out, I am so proud of you!.. Just remember that you deserve the world, and should settle for nothing less. And if ever a person tells you that you'll never find anyone better.... leave them right away because you are better and deserve so much more.
2007-12-20 06:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by homemaker 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was very scared at first - so much so that I left the state for a few days. I was not convinced I'd made the right decision. And I felt that way for a long time. I was terrified for months after I left.
Then, for the next three years, I was still kind of scared - paranoid - always keeping an eye for him. But I felt better about myself. I gained a lot of confidence.
Then 6 years ago, I moved away. That was the best I have felt in a long time.
2007-12-20 13:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by IJToomer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, and it is awful. Distance yourself..... only from that person though. Talk to your friends, parents, anyone who can help you and that understands your situation. Congrats on having the ability to get out of the relationship, some people don't, and then it's too late. Do Not Go Back!!! Everything will be okay, and you will be much happier without this person in your life.
2007-12-20 14:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay around supportive friends, family...keep busy. And do not call, text, the ex... Get rid of any reminders of them..You need a clean slate in order to move on....It will take a little while but it will be done and you will feel wonderful!!...Give yourself alot of praise for loving you enough to get out of an unloving relationship. It can only go up from here...
2007-12-20 13:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by kakeydec 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, before you get threw it, you realize what your allowing to haunt your everyday life,what you don't need in your life, and what you need in your life. Then, you agree with yourself by making the right choice, not pleasing the abuser but loving yourself.
2007-12-20 14:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
(((Elle))) - I felt so FREE!!!! I actually jumped up and down on the bed like the boy on Home Alone once I felt completely free. It was awesome. I'm glad you're feeling better sweetheart.
2007-12-20 15:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by Major Trouble 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Man here (sorry if I am not welcome) I teach my daughters that the best way to rid themselves of an abusive guy is with a .45 caliber pistol. Or just call me. Guys who have the fear of death put in them by a girls father are less likely to be abusive...
2007-12-20 14:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I thought my life was a great thing to have and finally leave with my kids. We are really great and I never thought I would find someone who would never hurt me Im married now and my kids are great and I am too.
2007-12-20 14:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
live and learn and MOVE ON!
Look for the "warning signs" for the next one!
Good luck, congratulations, and Happy Holidays!
2007-12-20 13:56:55 · answer #9 · answered by Sparky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time, time will heal you and lessen the pain. Just take one day at a time and keep your chin up. Merry Christmas!!
2007-12-20 14:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by sassypurplecat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋