A couple of weeks ago, I found out my husband was cheating by way of seeing them have sex. I left the house with my 5 yr old son before he got home from work. He was totally ok with this and we are getting a divorce. I just found out that my husband had been cheating on me for 2 YEARS! And his “girl friend” just had their baby. I just had OUR baby on Dec 15th, AFTER I found out that he was cheating. What should I DO??? I am now the single mom of an infant and 5 year old. And his wife just had a healthy little boy name Terrell Owen, making it horrible, our kids have the SAME Last name!! Terrell Owen Rossman and Landon Joel Rossman, Mikaeyla Jade Rossman. Their baby took my husbands last name.
WHAT SHOULD I DO???
* I didn't even know she was pregnant!!!!*
2007-12-20 05:47:05 · 73 answers · asked by Mommy of Landon and Kaeyla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PLUS Joel ( my husband) is 28 and she is an ALMOST 19 year old slut. That's right, she's like 18 yrs old!!!
2007-12-20 05:51:00 · update #1
Kelsi!!! OMG!!! What a jerk!! Well... I would make sure he pays (finacially) for your two children. I know you are hurting inside, but you will be fine. You are a wonderful person and will find that special someone when you least expect it. (if not drop me a line and I know this wonderful single guy whos a friend of hubbys and mine... lol ) Trying for a smile :) This is difficult with Landon and Mikaeyla involved. Not so much with your baby girl... she isn't attached to daddy. But poor Landon. Is he planning on being involved in his life? This is going to weigh hard on this little boy for years to come. I feel so bad for him... Let me know if I can do anything. Drop me a line... Merry Christmas Kelsi.
Lyn
2007-12-20 07:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clean him out, he deserves it, he won't get much if anything during the divorce. Next, when he fails to pay child support, get a job at a local prison or something similar(the ones in my state start at 16 min and often more all the way up to 25 an hour for entry level). Then, keep track of all the times he doesn't show up for visits. Also make sure you do NOT grant him partial custody, there is no way I would let my children go over there and the courts will agree as they will feel that the kids will feel uncomfortable around the umm girlfriend(can you really even call a sex on callbody a girlfriend or even a woman for that matter) when he breaches your agreements move out of state, at that point you are no longer obligated and get your kids somewhere that they can grow up without that stigma of visiting daddys latest *&%^$. So far my husband only looks at pornography but if he cheated on me this is what I would do. Another idea is Lubbock texas is supposed to be the cheapest place to live and go to college while still having a great atmosphere and education, it was on either cnn or money, sell the house go down there and buy another for 50-65000 and live there and go to school, you should be able to live completely off of school loans, state assistance and childsupport(if you ever see it) or what we call fip in iowa. You will get a free ride through school from grants for single moms/moms who left because they were being emotionally abused(cheating falls into this cat.) get far away from this cat he is a worthless scumbag who should have had the decency to leave you (not pregnant) before stuffing it into another woman(again CAN you even call her that) damned housewreaker. good luck, he should be castrated(do not do it yourself obviously) email me if you want to talk or anything. niall_loves_me@yahoo.com (niall is my son)
2007-12-20 06:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by mommy to be of 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do? first you should delete this question since you used your child's full name.
Then, decide whether this is a troll, or if you are an idiot, if the latter you can then look for a good divorce lawyer, and being an idiot you will need a good one since you will not be of much use.
You might check the age of consent in your state, if she is 18 now, odds are good she was 17 when she got pregnant, maybe you can get him thrown in jail, won't do your child support payments any good, but since you are so quick to give full names maybe revenge will be worth more to you.
59 answers in 5 minutes, looks like a pretty successful troll
I wonder if you name is really Rossman?
2007-12-20 06:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by tinkertailorcandlestickmaker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. Are men even worth it?!?
You're getting a divorce, good! Now MAKE SURE YOU GET CHILD SUPPORT. Do not be one of those women who settles for less than what she deserves. And that's all you can do. Be thankful you're not with this jerk anymore.
If you're pissed off just patiently wait and see how this all is going to eventually turn out horribly for your husband and his slutty girlfriend. Such irresponsible and immoral people will never be happy together, they will turn into eachother's worst nightmare. Everyone eventually gets what is coming to them, and when it does you will have the satisfaction of seeing their humiliation from afar.
And it's not their baby's fault, I feel sorry for their baby since its mom is such a slut. It is your kids' sibling even though it sucks, but remember how the baby didn't ask to be born into such a situation and tolerate it.
It's not like it's the end of the world, you still have your kids, and you're better off without this guy anyway. I have 2 kids, and I would still love them and have a happy life even if their father was not in the picture.
2007-12-20 06:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by qazwsx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations on your new baby.. secondly, he is not worth the ground he walks on. Really, he would be better of dead for the way he treated you, you didn't deserve that at all and unfortunatley there are many men out there who do that. The best thing for you to do is to have nothing more to do with him, if he wants to see the kids then let him but he has nothing more to do with you at all.. and you are gonna move on girl and have a better life than he will, i can be sure of that.. just hand on and be strong cause the next couple of months are gonna be tough with a young baby and all i want to say about him is "What goes around, comes around."
Good luck to you and your children, i hope you have a good life because you deserve it. xx
2007-12-20 05:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce, get alimony and child support on his *** you shouldnt have left the house though because legally you are his wife and you have 2 kids together, so that is your kids house, not hers. Men like that are just a waste of testosterone. This same situation happened to my mom. My dad was 40 and she was 19, now they have two girls together, but he lost 3 of his kids. He only comes by to pick up my sister and brother on Saturdays, for 3-4 hours. He is starting to regret it though, he has no contact with his only two grandsons (my boys) and he tells his brother that he made a big mistake in leaving his family for someone who wasnt worth it (my mom talks to my uncle occasionally). My mom got remarried to a great man and treats her really good. You will too. God will deal with them.
2007-12-20 06:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by MM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is a good thing you caught him because he is very dirty and on top of that he left you for a baby. There is nothing you can really do about the other baby but just don't keep your children from their father and their brother or sister because they may grow up to resent you for it and just pray and move on with your life because you deserve so much more. Let lying dogs lie is always what I have been told.
2007-12-20 05:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt hold it againts the baby for having the same last name as your kids. I would just let it go and move forward with your life. Be strong for your 5 year old and infant. Im not saying it will be easy but they need you. Congratulations on your baby. Hope the best for your family & happy holiday.
2007-12-20 06:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by PRINCESS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you pain and the trouble you husband has created..... you have loss nothing by losing this jerk... he has shown no respect for you or your children.... glad you are divorcing... but at this point ... there is a child that does deserve the best......really all of them ... the child by the other women will need a last name and if you husband is the father .. why not... you will get on with your life and put this all behide you ... this child will have to deal with this the rest of his life....Good Luck to you all
2007-12-20 05:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly the first step is admitting to yourself that it's over. He's not the type of man you want to be with (unless you don't mind sharing). Secondly you have to vow that your first priority is your children. Next go through with the divorce proceedings, making sure you and your children get taken care of. Don't hold hate in your heart the other woman's child.Don't keep your kids from their father(try your best to keep your problems from getting in the way of your parenting). Also try to be civil(if it helps give yourself one conversation with your ex to tell him how much of a low down dirty piece of scum he is, and then move on to keeping it strictly about the kids). Last but most importantly move on with your life, understand that his actions are no reflection on the type of woman or mother you are (he just sucks, and he's "her" problem now).
I wish you the best, and I'm sorry he did this to you.
2007-12-20 05:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by Mieshah H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋