how would you put the spark back into a relationship and what do you see as being romantic? id be interested in mens views on what being romantic is.
this may be current events but I feel i know people here and would like their opinions, thanks
2007-12-20 05:43:36 · 21 answers · asked by Mossy Jan 6 in News & Events ➔ Current Events
this is general, me and tim are very happy before anyone asks lol
2007-12-20 05:47:10 · update #1
ooo sorry my facts are wrong
2007-12-20 05:49:55 · update #2
shady: my tim doesnt come on yahoo answers
2007-12-20 05:56:12 · update #3
Its not about just putting the spark back in, its about keeping the spark alive. You have to show respect for the person you are married to and make sure that they always know how you feel about them.
Romance isnt all about flowers and chocolates its about showing someone how much you care. Its about having respect for that person who you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with.
I'm not married, but I believe that when I do get married it will be to the person I can't live without rather than the person I can live with.
2007-12-20 05:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Claire One Belt 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with rogerglyn the term is growing apart.
I'm married and the stress of working long hours apart and trying to raise two children really can break you. We have been together 14 years now and i think the things that have kept us together is honesty, spontaneity, respect.
We went through a really bad patch last year but worked hard on talking to each other, we found ourselves almost living separate lives and taking each other for granted, but at the end of the day we still loved each other as we did when we first met but we had forgotten how to laugh.
Now we do things for each other because we want to it doesn't have to be flowers etc it could be running a bath or writing a note in a lunchbox but we try to do something for each other out of love. We also make each other laugh and never sleep on an argument.
2007-12-20 16:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Be Vamp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Official Government figures in Britain state 40%.
But who believes the British Government.
I think it is nothing to do with romance; more of expectations.
When Marriage worked for life, the average life expectancy was 24 years of drudge and work with poor food, there the average marriage would last up to 10 years.
Now the expectation of life is approx 80 years, which means an average marriage lasting 60 years.
It is very difficult to see that commitment now and certainly not in the future.
People's lives change so much now and very quickly; from success to failure and back to failure to success.
Both Partners generally work outside the Home, this also causes tremendous strain for change.
The term I believe is 'growing away' from each other.
2007-12-20 14:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by rogerglyn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres less things holding marriages together now. Back in the day you had both sides of the family, entire towns, and your preacher holding your marriage together. It was a disgrace to divorce... Things have changed dramatically. People get in a tough spot and they take the easy way out instead of fighting for it.
Taking a vacation FAR away from your troubles usually does put the spark back. Makes you feel like you just met again.
2007-12-20 13:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I could do without the romance (not that I;d want to) if I could just have my peace.
There is nothing worse than a woman who won't recognize any good thing a man does, for her, around the house, etc.
But even a lack of recognition is preferable to ball busting.
If a woman doesn't nag a man, he will usually provide for a great deal of romance in the relationship himself.
Being apreciated is nice, but not an absolute need, but being disapreciated is horrible.
2007-12-20 14:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thought the figure would have been higher than that.
In the generation above me in the family there was only one divorce. My parents have just celebrated 60 years of marriage and others in their generation have celebrated their golden weddings.
You would think that with that kind of example then our generation would have followed their examples - they are all happy and contented marriages.
However from eight of us in my generation, only 2 are still married and 6 have been divorced. I have no idea why.
2007-12-20 19:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by threepenny53 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all relationships are marriages. Perhaps if people were more flexible and stopped believing in the Disney princess fantasy, then they wouldn't go in expecting so much - as a house, 2 kids and a cooked meal every night....
2007-12-20 14:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ya know Mossy Jan that number is now just over 50% not 1 in 3....
on that note and coming from an old guy who's been happily married for 20 years now all I can say is my secret is...
do what ever she tells me too!
It would be funny if it wasnt true ;-)
2007-12-20 13:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by BigBadWolf 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No.
1 in 2 marriages end in divorce.
2007-12-20 13:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's over 50% that end up in divorce. But I'm tired of the woman having to take responsibility to save the marriage. Men need to own up to their part in it.
2007-12-20 14:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋