I don't ask for anything. All I ask is, IF my wife doesn't want to give me freedom to play around, that my wife keep me company and show me a little TLC while I satisfy myself watching porn once per week. Hell, if she did it once every couple of weeks or even once a month, that would satisfy me that she has any interest at all in pleasing me. As far as taking over the chores I have been doing for the past several years while she's been drunk or ripped or out of her head, I didn't ask her to do them. I am making her an offer; it's easy, it should be fun, and wouldn't even be necessary if she was even interested in sex.
2007-12-20 05:38:06 · 11 answers · asked by lillegman46 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is finally clean and sober and doing well with it, but it's a little late tow in my affections back unless she gives me something more than meaningful looks across the dinner table..lol.
2007-12-20 05:43:54 · update #1
It sounds like there are more issues here than just sex. I would suggest marriage counseling and a lot of communication. Good luck and Merry Christmas.
2007-12-20 05:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"IF my wife doesn't want to give me freedom to play around, that my wife keep me company and show me a little TLC while I satisfy myself watching porn once per week."
So wait, you married this woman, and you are telling her that if she expects you to be faithful and honor the marriage, she must perform certain sexual favors...? Do you see her as some "object" that you BOUGHT to pleasure yourself, and now the object is.... broken? They make plastic dolls for that. Maybe you could go buy a plastic doll to keep you company while you 'satisfy' yourself. She would the perfect candidate, she has NO feelings, does not speak and is filled with holes.
I'm sorry friend, but why on earth would you ever enter the sanctity of marriage? Your talking about YOUR WIFE here! A real woman with feelings and emotions! What are you DOING? Try reminding yourself exactly why you chose to marry your wife. Did you love her? Do you love her? Maybe you should start by telling her that, and working to help her feel loved. It just might help your cause.
EDIT: If she is clean and sober, she won't be with you for long. Prepare yourself for that. She isn't going to defame herself, or degrade herself with a clear head.
2007-12-20 13:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by ☆ Spharoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is right about you going out side the marriage, I am glad that she has put her foot down, but why are you not getting TLC? And why is your wife Drunk, Ripped, and Out of it? How did that happen? And I can't believe she was like that before you got married, or else why did you marry her?
You have to talk about the problem together, if she put her foot down, then she still loves you.
2007-12-20 13:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by fed2ball 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's sick and doesn't want to have sex because she's disgusted with you. Take a good hard look at yourself.
Once a week! You're addicted. If you don't believe me - try going a year without porn and see if you can do it. Also, see if it improves your relationship.
2007-12-20 13:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Steve 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a serious but not accusatory talk with her. Tell her this is what you expect of her and she has to be willing to work with you.
Do you have children together?
Has she recently had a baby?
Is she depressed?
Ask her what the reasons for her lack of interest.
Was she interested and sexual at some point or she was always like this?
2007-12-20 13:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you are doing everything.
She is doing nothing.
It seems clear to me that you are an idiot.
That's not a bad thing from what I hear now a days.
Apparently its the new "fair" thing to do.
Whatever, you do don't cut her off from your money and make her pull her own weight in the relationship, because you might get divorced and be forced to do everything yourself.
2007-12-20 13:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a sick marriage this is. If your wife won't give you the freedom to play around? You don't play around in marriage, period. Get divorced---you'll both benefit from it!
2007-12-20 13:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ray, your wife needs help for her addiction problems. Get her the help she needs and maybe the rest will come around.
2007-12-20 13:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude your marraige stinks-why would you continue to feed into this disfunction? I think you should seperate -and see what real realtionships are about-good luck
2007-12-20 13:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i don't know what to tell you try putting on in when she is gone to the store and is about to come home you never know she may like it then if she thinks can bust you
2007-12-20 14:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by sissy_ingle2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋