friends w/benefits? I've known this guy a couple months now. When we first started talking he said he wanted to be friends w/benefits. Now, I know the "true" meaning of that means no emotional attachment. But we talk everyday, he says he has feelings for me(which I thought was a no-no in these sort of things)& tells me he misses me & can't wait to see me & wants to spend more time w/me. He has also said before though, that he isn't looking for a serious relationship. So if he doesn't want to be serious right now & it seems that the rules of fwb have been broken what are we now? I know whatever our relationship is it doesn't have to be labeled as far as I'm concerned..I'm just wondering. I haven't been divorced real long & I'm back to being single, so just curious.
2007-12-20 05:36:50 · 5 answers · asked by thisgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what your friend is actualy saying to you is he is wanting more sex, I feel you could be mistaking what he is saying to be that he wants more than sex from you, but I feel as a man what he is trying to tell you is that he enjoy's sex with you and wants more of it. that is what he means when he says he cant wait to see you and wants to spend more time with you. If you slacked off on the sex chances are he wont say those things to you. If you told him that you no longer wanted to be friends with benifits, im sure he would say ok lets just be friends.
2007-12-20 06:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by john d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, fwb can encompass many things. Just because someone isn't looking for a long-term or committed relationship doesn't mean they won't form emotional attachments. From my own experience I can say that you can be very much infatuated with a person, but still realize that you don't want to be in a serious relationship with them. Or you can be in a fwb situation where you not so much are "infatuated", but instead you come to care about the person and enjoy their company - and yet there's an understanding that this person would not be the right person for a serious relationship/marriage. There are different scenarios that can play out - ideally, you will both be honest with each other and with yourselves, and no one gets hurt. Relationships can be fun even if it's clear from the get-go that this isn't the person you're going to "spend the rest of your life with". Good luck.
2007-12-20 13:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are friends with benefits you already sealed the deal of pleasing a man with no emotional attachment, which equals every mans dream. A man like this is scum and you let him be that way by agreeing to this arrangement. If you want "the next step", find someone who isn't agreeing to use you.
2007-12-20 13:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by Queen of Beer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until the relationship actually starts to feel real and more serious to you (less sex and more substance), then I wouldn't buy into anything he says. Pay attention to his actions! Also, understand that you're vulnerable right now and take care of yourself and your feelings first in all of this. Decide what YOU want, nevermind what he is thinking and feeling, etc.
2007-12-20 13:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Marina 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to make up his mind FWB or more. Tell him you are newly out of a bad relationship and don't want to complicate it with feelings unless he is serious about his feelings for you now.
2007-12-20 13:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by blueeyes_unever_4get 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋