My boyfriend was fortunate enough to survive having a brain tumor on his spinal cord the size of a large golf ball.
It's been 9 years since his operation, and he has been completley ok like a normal person, you can hardly notice his scar anymore.
I know there are causes for people with brain tumors and the like, but he seems to want to just forget about the matter since he is ok now.
I am into doing volunteer work at hospitals and such and I think he doesn't realize just how lucky he is.
How can I get him to be more active in helping people like him?
2007-12-20 05:08:36 · 6 answers · asked by marm212 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If you feel obligated to chase causes you should do so. He doesn't. I had breast cancer, a golf ball size lymph node plus others were removed. I attended the Relay for Life for a couple of years and stopped. Some people don't want reminded on a daily basis how 'lucky' they were and what they 'should' be doing because of it. There wasn't any luck, there were symtoms and doctors and results that were positive. Don't you think he knows it could have gone the other way? We know this can reoccur-we need to move on and involve ourselves with other things. Leave him alone. Let him chose what he does or doesn't do. You are being overbearing and inconsiderate to his feelings.
2007-12-20 05:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't interested in getting involved, then you can't. Don't think that because he won't get involved means that he doesn't care. It could have been a very painful experience for him and being involved in such a way would only bring back bad memories.
2007-12-20 05:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by ExistenceUnknown 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He has to want to do it himself.It is good that you volunteer,but ask yourself are you trying to push your passion on him?He is very fortunate yes,but I know this is a touchy issue for him,and may open up a door that brings that painful experience back.Let him progress in his own time.Allowing someone the pleasure of being who they are is what love is all about.
2007-12-20 05:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to push him into that. If he needs to get active to find closure (the reason most get involved) he will. But you do NOT want to push him into something like that. This is your thing, not his. Keep it that way and you'll have a healthier relationship.
2007-12-20 05:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by pip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when a person has a close brush with death, all of a sudden life has more meaning to them. They want to enjoy their days! Have fun and talk to people. He doesn't want to spend his time fighting and arguing, and frankly, who can blame him?
2007-12-20 06:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by creativeresearchmethods 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes not interested in helping people... he survived by himself so leave em. dont make em do what he doesnt want to.
2007-12-20 09:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋