If your b/f or husband watchs PORN once in a while, what is wrong with that? It's not like he is doing "it" with someone else.
I have no trouble watching with my husband and I see nothing wrong with him watching it alone. I feel lucky to be able to have such an open relationship. I am just shocked that there are so many woman (or girls) out there that won't even let there men look at a girl mag.
2007-12-20 04:58:36 · 36 answers · asked by queenbee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's nothing wrong with porn in itself. It is a fantasy. Women who believe if they take out the porn their man won't fantasize about other women are wrong. Men have several fantasies a day. It doesn't take away from your relationship. In a man's mind, sex and intimacy are totally different things. Women have a hard time understanding this because when we have sex, it's out of love and feelings and the physical aspects all together. A fantasy is a fantasy and that's it. Women's number one fear is not being loved in a relationship and porn is one of the things we hate because it makes us insecure. The best advice is just to know that it's a man thing. It doesn't detract from your relationship at all and the more you fight it, the more he'll resent you for wanting him to be less manly.
2007-12-20 05:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by amy8bug 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with porn is that it creates an unrealistic expectation of what a woman's body should always look like. It creates an atmosphere of sexual activity that is unrealistic for most. What are you going to do when you're in your late forties and things start to sag, and he still has expectations of you looking and performing like a 19 year old? You've heard of gateway drugs? You know, weed just leads to harder drugs? Well porn is the same way. You may start with relatively soft core stuff. Artistic nudes, and the like. But the more you get into it, the harder core stuff you look for.
Also, the worst part of on line porn is that it's so infested with spy ware, and viruses, you can't look for even a few minutes without your computer catching something, and then the spam you start to get afterwords is a nightmare.
Also the Internet stuff is a joke. Most sites are nothing more than hosting sites that try to lead you to other sites.
2007-12-20 05:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally find porn extremely funny and ridiculous. Everything is basically fake and just for a show.
You have adults who are willing to have sex with anyone for money and let people tape it. It is pretty much legal prostitution.
I don't feel that my man should have a need to watch other naked women having sex. I feel they are extremely demeaning of the female species.
I think that couples who watch porn are just waiting to fall apart. It leads to the man wanting a threesome and thinking maybe you'll go along with it.
I see lusting after others as a sin and a waste of time. If I don't know someone well enough, there is no way I can get turned on by them, let alone fantasize about having sex with them.
Plus saying, 'its not like he is doing "it" with someone else', is nothing more than your excuse for it to be ok for him to do it.
I feel so bad for all of you who don't care if your spouse is fantasizing about others during sex, it just shows what society has really degraded to. Then we ask why there are so many divorces.
Basically, he doesn't need it to live and shouldn't need it to remain faithful. So it shouldn't be a necessity in a relationship.
2007-12-20 05:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most of the time (I know not always) it is an issue when the woman has a self image problem. She feels like he is replacing her in his mind. She feels inadequate as a woman and a wife, because in her mind, if he was attracted to her, he wouldn't need to look at other women. Some women find porn degrading to women.
Personally, I don't care if my husband views porn every now and again, but there was a time in my past when I was very threatened by it, for the reason I stated before. I felt bad about myself, and that spilled over onto him.
2007-12-20 05:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i never used to care about it. then i find out he's looking at teen porn. i know these girls are of age but its the way its marketed. like "fresh, only 18, etc..". then i complain because we dont have sex enough and he says its because he only needs it 1-2 a week but i find out he is looking at that every single day. in fact, he is driving home on his lunch break just to look at that for 5 minutes since he only has a half hour break. i wouldnt care if it was a movie once in a blue. but please tell me....what am i supposed to feel in a situation like this? im young, attractive, and get hit on all the time. yet i am sexually unsatisfied because my husband would rather look at 18 year old girls on the internet. this is why it bothers me.
2007-12-20 08:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some couples dont have a problem w/ this and thats fine as long as its mutual and doesnt cause any problems. But then there are those like me who dont watch it and doesnt like her husband watching it. It has caused problems for us in the past and we almost divorced. When a man is more into porn than being affectionate w./ his girl and not making her feel like she is the most beautiful woman in the world it becomes a problem. I dont have a problem w/ him looking at other women I use to but I didnt understand then now I know he is just a man and likes looking at other beautiful women and thats fine as long as he doesnt disrespect me in the process. I myself dont like the thought of my husband looking at porn to get excited then to have me. If he needs those images to get turned on in order to be w/ me sexually then theres a problem. So it just depends on your relationship everyone has their thoughts on this and just b/c you are fine w/ it doesnt mean every couple in america likes porn. If you like it fine but just b/c not everyone else does and that doesnt mean their weird or something.
2007-12-20 07:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by hotmoma1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on this one. I think it helps the relationship. But I think some women think of it as a slap in the face to them, like they don't turn there man on anymore or that they don't love them. But that's not the case. I think it keeps your relationship healthy and strong when you can sit down and watch porn together. Plus sometimes it can give you some new ideas to use! And help keep your own sex life lively!
2007-12-20 05:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by nalerij 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, there are a lot of insecure women out there. I can't even begin to come up with the idea that if your man watches porn then he's not turned on my you. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard! The only time porn is a problem is if they become addicted to it or hiding it from there spouse. My man watches porn by himself or we watch it together. If you love sex then porn is a good way to keep it interesting.
2007-12-20 05:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by Peace 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
there is nothing wrong with my man/men watching porn because i am right next to him
2016-05-25 04:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by margaretta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem with my husband watching porn either. I like watching it more than he does. He likes to watch it with me and I can watch it with or without him. So I have never seen a problem with porn.
2007-12-20 05:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋