Ok, so the question is, let's say me. I grew up as a boy who was taught that only women cried and that I was supposed to hide my feelings and show no fear. Let's say I learned to do that, but now, someone comes along and starts talking to me. Eventually I open up and start to discover "new" emotions. The problem is, that since I had never experienced these "feelings" before and had always suppressed them, I do not know how to let them out correctly or safely. I have read articles, stories, and heard from people who grew up just like me, and now that they have dealt with their new emotions, their lives seem to be happier. They are happy having emotions. But they had lots of help, they weren't alone when the learned to deal with emotions. So is it better to learn to identify "new" emotions and learn how to deal with them and control them once you become more acquainted with them, or is it better not to have emotions at all.
2007-12-20 04:58:22 · 5 answers · asked by evangelion 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Let's say I'm pretty "cold", no emotions towards family members or self. Pain is a hindrance, like you don't react to pain (scream, yell). Wouldn't life be perfect without emotions? No deaths due to jealousy, or rage, no pain or suffering.
2007-12-20 05:01:00 · update #1
Hiding, or suppressing emotions doesn't "hurt". And those who have gotten over this most likely had help. Is it safe to try to deal with it yourself?
2007-12-20 05:26:52 · update #2
without emotions, we would just become shells, it's the very thing that makes us human.. without them, we become no different than robots with artificial intelligence, or zombies as philosophers would say. the more emotional you can be, the more human you are, and the less, the more robotic you become. with dualism, you're split into your mind and body, so without the emotions and feelings of the mind, you're left with only the body, you'll be empty and cold, just like robots
2007-12-20 05:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by tdoan89 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's better to have emotion, not having emotion is dull. I used to surpress my emotions, packing them behind a large amount of self-hatred, that I dared to presume I had the right to express weakness..
That part of my life is a dark memory, I learned that being strong wasn't being an emotionless robot; being strong is carrying on with my life, and maintaining patience and hope no matter what.
It's infinitely better than the way I used to live. I suggest you go look into Jesus as a savior, and then learn that life is too short to be an unstoppable juggernaut.
If you're worried about expressing emotions at the wrong time, or "safely", don't, some people are more emotional than others, and there's no risk in expressing those emotions. If they don't like that you cry during weepy movies.. they can suck off. People will respect your freedom of expression.
Feel free to email me with any questions, or just to talk.
2007-12-20 05:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ting Tang, Tator, & Raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings aren't just a bothersome affliction--they are an ESSENTIAL SURVIVAL MECHANISM!!! Fear is to warn us of danger; sorrow is to relieve us of stress; anxiety is also to warn us of some possible danger lurking; love is to draw us close to other people--to propagate. If you're willing to end your family line--then don't do it without feelings! Loveless marriages are a disaster for all involved! Anger can also be a protection against aggression.---I'm sorry you faced such a stone wall against feelings as a boy! I DO HOPE that you seek out good therapy--a psychiatric social worker is good at helping deal with inner and social phenomenon!! You'll discover a rich world within yourselff! Otherwise, you face a bloodless existence--all by yourself. Having been taught NOT to feel was NOT your choice; BUT, now to continue your life that way, IS YOUR CHOICE! Good Luck!
2007-12-20 05:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotions are good to discover and understand. Plus God said out of all your getting get an understanding. Which is i try a new emotion everyday.it kinda like inspiration when you get good at it you know how it feels
2007-12-20 05:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by Joshua M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...guys shed tears are stronger than guys who tries to hide it
reason is because...the more you hide it...
the more it hurts and so on
anywaise...
to deal with emotions...
all you have to do is just let it flow by...
it's better to have emotions then to not to, but...it's impossible not to have emotions
even the must heartless person in the world has emotions...
2007-12-20 05:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋