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Question

do you think 16 is too early to start having sex if you've been in a relationship for 7 months and are waiting for birth control pills and are going to use a condom for extra protection.

Answer 1

If you knew in your heart that you were ready, would you be asking a bunch of strangers? Are you ready for any consequences such as infections or pregnancy? Those can happen no matter how hard you try and prevent them. I'm not trying to sound harsh. I was 16 (and not given a choice) and I would give ANYthing if I could go back in time and have that choice to make.

Answer 2

Yes 16 is way too early. I lost my virginity at 18 and I know now I wasn't ready then. Even though you plan on using birth control you could still get pregnant. Then what? Are you both going to finish school? How will you support the baby? Where would you live? What would you do if you got a STD? What would you do if the boy breaks up with you soon after you loose your virginity to him? There are so many things to consider before having sex. There really is no rush. Save that part of you for the man you marry.

Answer 3

its not the age that is important as much as if you are really ready, I found out through experience that 16 was too young. The guys, they don't care one way or another its us women that put more into it than that, when we have sex we also put our hearts into, and for that reason I think 16 is to young. If you have an OOOps, guess what? your pregnant at 16 do you really want that? If you are waiting on the pill my guess is its not effective yet and condoms on their own are just not safe enough. If your are not sure about that just read this Q & A section for a bit and see how many women are having problems in that area, how many women have had the condom come off the man and get stuck inside them, or have the condom break. Its not just the sex you have to think about you also have to think about what happens if you finally give into your boyfriend, have sex with him and 2 weeks later he takes off because he's gotten what he wants and now there you are left by your self wondering what you did wrong. There is so much more wrapped up into this little thing called sex that it boggles the mind, and you really have to be prepared for all of the extra crap that goes along with it, not just the physical act itself, all the other crap, are you old enough or mature enough for that. Do you trust him enough with your heart, with your mind, with your possible future, if something happens to the condom? Think about all of it. Good Luck

Answer 4

Don't do it. Been there done that. 16, 17 and even 18 is still too young. Wait until you are mature enough to handle the baby if you do get pregnant. You are also going to really regret sleeping with this guy when you are out of high school and look back. You may love him now, but he will not be the last guy you date. Just wait at least until you are out of high school and can see what the real world and being a real adult is all about. Acting like an adult has a lot of down falls. Living on welfare and off your parents for years to come because you got pregnant at 16 is the largest one.

Answer 5

I lost mine at seventeen.

I'm sure that people tell you this all the time, but I really want you to consider what I'm telling you. It's what I've learned from making my own mistakes.. Please be very sure that this is the person that you want to remember for the rest of your life. No matter what happens. Because if you break up, there's no re-do. You know? Your virginity is a very special gift. It is what separates you from others. Its a very important thing and you should not regret it. Please be sure that he's the one for you.

If you are sure he's the right one, then I'd say..... I guess 16 is ok. If I had it to do over again, I think I would have waited longer than 17, because your perspective changes afterwards and so do your problems. I've always felt that I could have avoided alot of bad things in my life if I had waited.

In this day in age though, 16 is considered waiting. So, if you feel like your ready for the changes and you believe that he's the one, then go for it girl. But remember, you're only young once.

Answer 6

Honestly, I don't think that you are too young as long as: you are o.k. with having sex before marriage, you feel that you are in a loving steady relationship that will last after sex (up to you and your partner to decide), and you are smart about birth control (deciding to use two forms of birth control is being smart) : )

I don't think there is anyone on here (beside you) who can say for sure whether you are ready. I'm waiting until I get married, so I don't really have any advice from personal experience. And while you're not too young, there's nothing wrong with waiting, either I've never heard anybody say they wish they'd had sex instead of waiting. So, my suggestion is that you try waiting until your 1 year anniversary. I know it seems like a long time, but it'll be worth it. By doing this, you may be able to avoid post-sex problems. A lot of girls say that after they have sex, everything about their relationship changed.

Do you feel like you're ready?

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Answer 7

I think most of my generation started having sex around 16 or 17. It's not just about getting pregnant though, unless they're a virgin too I would recommend a condom for STD protection. I would say go for it, just don't hype sex up like it's this huge emotional deal, it isn't, it's just sex. I can't remember how many girls have told me that they were saving themselves for marriage or something and they finally had sex with someone and thought to themselves "I waited all of this time for this? What's the big deal?"

Answer 8

Yes I think it's too young...Sorry probably not what you're hoping to hear. Sex is so powerful it doesn't allow smarter decision making that will protect you.
I was married at 16. Now I'm twice that age. In my opinion at 16 the sex will take control over our emotions because the brain isn't emotionally mature enough and the lack of experienced. The overwhelming feelings of love/lust take over and most young people tend give in to the moment.

Answer 9

Yes. I think that 16 is too early to have sex. If whomever wants a baby now, then go at it. Just because you have birth control doesn't mean you can't get pregnant.

Answer 10

Yes, 16 is too early. Honestly, I'd say before you're married is too early--I made that mistake (not the sex at 16, the other one) and I really wish I could have waited for my husband.