does it matter what race, age, social status (or any other factors you care about) they blong to? Do these factors make it hurt any more or less, or it would hurt as much regardless?
2007-12-20 03:39:18 · 20 answers · asked by Lioness 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
And if it matters, would it hurt more if the other person was "inferior" or "superior" to you?
2007-12-20 03:50:11 · update #1
Interesting. I hurt more when/if I'm left for someone "inferior" because he must have thought I'm even worse than her. If he leaves me for someone better than me, then I can understand why he would make that decision...besides, I'm less confused and more motivated to work on myself, if it means improvement for myself. If it makes any sense?
2007-12-20 06:28:19 · update #2
No - it doesn't matter and their status doesn't make it hurt less, but it's always something to bash the new person about to let out the hurt feelings.
2007-12-20 03:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Done 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you've been emotionally invested in a relationship it's going to hurt like crazy to break up no matter what race, age, or social status you have. However, the older you get the better able you are to bounce back and do a postmortem on the relationship that helps you put things into prespective, in my opinion. What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.
2007-12-20 04:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well having just been through this, none of that matters. It would hurt regardless. Now, I do feel better knowing that the new girlfriend "looks like a horse" (according to my friends). I think that's great that he's stuck with an ugly biatch now. He deserves that. Guess he thought he was trading up. Doubtful.
2007-12-20 03:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie Queen of All ♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Social status, looks and maybe age can make me feel worse. Makes me think I was not good enough.
EDIT: It would hurt more if they where superior because it means he could do better. If she is inferior I just think that means I could do a lot better.
2007-12-20 03:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Not really, just as long as he leaves and doesn't cheat. I can't stand lying and cheating. Would it hurt, yes, a little, but, I've learned to accept that when it comes to things beyond my control, it was just meant to be. The fact of the matter is that it's over; from there I try to find the positive in it. And there are positive things - if we look hard enough.
2007-12-20 06:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by Fex 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the level of pain would be the same regardless but if someone leaves you for a person you consider less attractive, less moral, less whatever, it kind of pricks your pride and that smarts. If it's a person who you think is as attractive as you are or is more attractive, has significantly more money than you, etc. you can console yourself by saying that the person was just shallow and not who you thought they were in the first place.
2007-12-20 03:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by Really? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It just hurts. The only thing that makes a difference is how close you were. The closer you were to each other, the worse it hurts. the main thing that hurts is that they left you. If it's for someone else, that just adds a bitterness topping to the cake of pain.
2007-12-20 04:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Spartacus! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It won’t hurt any more or less, but I think we objectify why someone left by comparing ourselves to the other woman/man. It would be easy to kid myself into thinking that he left me because she was prettier, richer, has bigger boobs, etc. However, I would not be seeing the real reason he left, which could be that our personalities diverged to the point that he did not relate to me anymore.
By saying the other woman/man isn’t as pretty or whatever is an empowering act that we do to objectify why we’re better off without him/her.
2007-12-20 04:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by Rainbow 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think it would hurt as much regardless. The fact that I am being left for another person is all it takes.
2007-12-20 03:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is an inevitable tendency to compare ourselves with the new partners of our ex partners.
And yes, I suppose that it would be more hurtful to think that you have been left for someone who compares unfavourably to you, I have seen people who obsess over what the new person has that they don't.
As others have stated, it would hurt no matter what, but I do think that it is human nature to compare.
2007-12-20 03:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Twilight 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋