2007-12-20 03:21:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You may try :
- Be friendly to him and arrange a lunch/dinner meeting to discuss the matter.
- Try to understand his point of view.
- Try to explain your point of view and the mutual benefits from the job.
- Explain the after effects if the matter is not resolved amicably.
-Explain the loss he may have to incur if the matter is not resolved as per your assertion.
2007-12-21 19:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by sb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, that depends upon the relationship that is between you and the person! If there is none, it must be a shopkeeper or clerk. Ask for management. Or, if it's a policeman that stops you, DON'T ARGUE! If a spouse, you probably knew that in the beginning; so it shouldn't be a surprise. If it's an off-spring of your own, then it depends upon h/her age. If they are under 18, then try simply removing privileges until they are willing to talk with you. Don't fight with them! If over 18 and they are still dependent upon you for support; school or whatever, and what you have to say IS IMPORTANT TO YOU, give them a time-limit in which to sit down and talk, or they will loose something that will get their attention! If they are over 18 and NOT dependent upon you--then you're up a creek! If it's your own parent, then you've lived with them for some time and you probably know the outcome. REALLY need more info to address this Q!
2007-12-20 04:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them completely and do what you want to as far as is practical, without getting into unnecessary debate. Do not seek the stubborn persons opinion or views. Do not give them any undue importance. After being sidelined for a while, they may actually mellow !!
2007-12-20 15:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide if it is really worth it to deal with this person. Sometimes the best thing is to walk away, go on with your life and let them get on with theirs.
If you must deal with them, stay calm, stay on the point you are trying to make. Be logical. Try not to be emotional.
2007-12-20 03:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by Pam H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flash a big smile and say, "Sir/ma'am, thank you for listening to me, in spite of the stress your other affairs are causing you. The feedback tou have given will be of vital essence in the days ahead. I shall most certainly return to you, my mentor, when other problems arise in my life."
That should get his goat.
2007-12-20 04:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by ven_god_ky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've learned that people like that get their jollies out of getting you frustrated. Remember, two can play at that game. Let it go, and there will be a time they will want to talk to you, and then see how they like a little taste of their own medicine. As long as you keep trying to get through to them, they are just going to get their sick fun out of seeing you get angry and frustrated.
2007-12-20 03:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay calm, be to the point, do not get emotional. Keep repeating your thoughts to this person until he acknowledges that he has heard you.
2007-12-20 03:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is easy - - stop trying to talk to them. Sooner or later they will notice you no longer are talking to them, and they will ask why. That is the time to tell them WHY.
2007-12-20 04:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋