iam a lesbian and we have 3 children between us i have found the perfect partner but she does not want any more as she feels we have 3 healthy and well behaved boys but i desperatly want a baby girl
2007-12-20 02:56:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
any baby would be grate for us just as long as it is healthy and brought up by us . me and my wife r solid now that would only bring us closer.
2007-12-20 03:24:37 · update #1
I am so sorry for your situation. Unless things change radically...you have to accept reality. Think over the three reasons you already have to stay together. I wanted four children...but after two miscarriages... had to accept that I was to be blessed with only one wonderful child. I still think of the two I lost... but the pain is bearable now...after twenty-five years. I had to let go. **** luck and blessings!
2007-12-20 03:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by Gina C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tough one! You already have three wonderful children! But how can you guarantee this baby will be a girl? I'm wondering too if there are not other issues than just having a daughter at this point. You cannot force having another baby with your wife if she doesn't want any more children. Are you feeling like something is missing that you're thinking maybe a daughter will fill? Some void? All you can do is tell her that you really want this, you already have three lovely sons and another child will only bring everymore more joy. Express your love for her and say that's how you express it, by raising a great family. Good luck to you! Merry Christmas!
2007-12-20 11:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I assume you're living together or whatever... if you didn't discuss your life goals, plans, way you expect to live, finances and other things before entering into a committment, then i guess you went into it blindly.
Expectations of others are a set up for a big let down.
With the world in the shape its in, i can't see why you'd want to bring another life onto this planet, to be quite honest.
Take care and maybe realize there comes a time when we have to accept others at face value and respect their wishes.
2007-12-20 11:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy with the children you have. Just because you want a baby girl does not mean you will get one.
If your wife does not want to get pregnant you could try to adopt a baby girl.
Good Luck
2007-12-20 11:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by sexxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You brought it up and she doesn't want any more kids. I think that this is one of those things that should have been talked about before anything ever came up. Besides, it may end up that you have four boys, and no girls... Does that mean you'll want to try again? Why not think about adoption, there are LOADS of boys and girls that need a loving home.
2007-12-20 11:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is something you and your partner have to work out...make a list of things that would change in your lives if you had another child (financially, stress, me time, errands, work, etc..) and have a serious sit-down chat. I don't want any children and my husband wants them BADLY, so we put the child thing on hold until I'm (if i'm ever) ready. Good luck.
2007-12-20 11:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by I ♥ Penguins 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You made the choice, now you must live it.Most people talk this over before they make a commitment. Have you considered getting married to a man and having your own children. most women do at sometimes. in their life want to be a mother or is thist not an option in your case.?
2007-12-20 11:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Bee Bee 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe for now she is thinking 3 is enough,,,financially it could be expensive as you already know and maybe she wants to make sure the boys are wll taken care of first. If you give her some time, maybe she will realize that a little girl will put the final icing of the cake of an already awesome family...Good luck.
2007-12-20 11:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just be thankful for what you have...there are lots of couples
who would like to be able to have one child whatever the sex.
Don't you think you are being a tad selfish?
2007-12-20 11:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give her time and try and bring it up again. Also could you possibly be the one to carry the child it's worth a try. See what she thinks
Good Luck!
Let's see how many people are ignorant to this question grow up in advance people!
2007-12-20 11:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by Debbie 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋