How old was your baby when you and your husband...?

Question

finally went on vacation???
My husband wants to vacation in Europe next October (and our baby is due now, so she'll only be 9 months). I don't think I can be away from her until she's like FIVE!! He says "You'll need a break by October."

I need some advice about how Ill feel and how to make him understand. Thank you!!!

The baby would stay with family.
BTW: Not all of Europe is cold in October!!! LOL!

Answer 1

I would buy a Snuggli and take the baby with me. Either that or tell my husband to send me a post card.

Answer 2

No way would I go to another continent when I had a 9 month old baby. My kids are 5 1/2 and 3 1/2, and we've never been away from them for a long period of time. They have spent the night with my mom a couple of times, but that's it. When they were infants, an hour or two was all any of us could handle.

Tell your husband that you would not have any fun and would be worrying about the baby, and missing her terribly the whole time. If you are breastfeeding, how will she eat? Will you Fed-Ex pumped milk every day?

Yes, you'll want a break. That's what grandparents are for. You can leave your baby with them for a few hours and spend time alone with your husband.

Perhaps you could take the baby and a relative with you. If my son wanted to take a vacation away from his baby when she was that young, first I'd slap him in the face, mourn the fact that I had raised a son who did not understand that tiny uhmans need their parents, then I'd offer to go along and be a nanny to my grandchild for a week.

Babies need their mothers.

Answer 3

When my husband came home from Iraq we went away for the weekend, my son was 10 months at the time. We were only gone for 3 days and we were just one state over (drove to Santa Fe from Colorado). In some ways it was hard, I missed him alot of course. But he stayed with my mom who I'm very comfortable with her watching him, so I was not worried about him as much. And since I'd pretty much been a single parent since my son was born, it really was nice to have a break and get a chance to get to know my husband again.
Oh, I had also stopped breastfeeding a few months before, I don't think a trip would have been logistically possible if I was still breastfeeding.
Europe is a long way away, but it is gorgeous and there's so much great stuff to do. If you think you'll have major seperation anxiety being on a different continent than your munchkin, you might want to make the trip short or closer to home. Start small but don't nix the idea of a vacation all together.
In the end I'm very glad we took the trip because he won't remember us being gone for a few days when he was a baby but hopefully what he will remember is two calm, loving parents who had a chance to relax and bond......And I'm pretty sure he'll always remember his little sister who was our little souvenir from that trip, lol.

Answer 4

I have a 7 months old and am far from leaving her even for the night. Its really up to you but I couldnt. My daughter really is attached to me and I actually think 9 months is around the time when babies can start with severe stranger anxiety, meaning even close family. ALthough some babies dont go through it you can know if yours will or not. Personally I couldnt do it at 9 months but its all about how you will feel. I know a girl who went to mexico for a week when her baby was just over a year. If your planning on nursing a year you wont be able to leave your baby that long. If your bottle feeding you could. Personally why not wait to book untill closer to the date. That way you can feel it out and see if your ready. My instict is you wont be. But thats me :)
Hope it works out for you but it will be super tough if you choose to go.
Merry Christmas!

Answer 5

My daughter is almost 2 and she went on 3 vacation trips with us. The first one me and my husband (and daughter) drove from Ontario to Florida, when she was 6 months old. Stayed for a week and enjoyed every minute.
The second trip she went on was only with mommy and that was to Europe for just over a month. She was just over a year and that was a little harder but i had help from family.
And just the recent one a couple weeks ago was the 8 hr drive to Chicago.

My point is, take her with you and get her used to travelling with you from the beginning and you won't have problems later. We enjoyed every trip with out daughter and looks like she enjoys it as well.

Answer 6

My daughter is 2 1/2, and we just recently took a flight from Atlanta to Philly and the flight was awful. We were the people on the plane that you hate to be near cause their kid is crying. I think that going to Europe would be a great Idea. Since he/she will be so small you don't even have to purchase a seat and can just hold the child through the flight. I say go for it. It will be a lot better than leaving the child behind and worrying so much that you don't enjoy yourself.

Answer 7

My son was 20 months and we brought him with us to Mexico (grandma was also there so we could get some alone time.)

You might want a few hours away, but there is no way you will want 10 days away from her at that age. And then if you are breastfeeding, you will definitely need to bring a pump and have left enough pumped milk for her and you know what? You just won't want to be away from that long.

I spent a night away from my son when he was 28 months old, and that was almost too long. I missed him unbearably. I don't think I could ever leave my almost 9 month old for a week, no possible way.

I would, however, bring him with me. I have traveled with my kids and at that age they are still great to travel with. I had a sling for easy transport and could nurse them everywhere so we just needed to bring diapers and clothes.

Answer 8

We first left our son alone for a whole night when he was 5 months old when we stayed in a hotel for my birthday. We never left him for longer than a night or two until he was three and we were gone for a week. It's whatever you are comfortable with really and whatever you think your child can handle. If you're not ready at nine months, then your husband should understand. Don't do anything that you and your baby will not be okay with, you won't be able to enjoy yourself until you're really ready to be apart. Good luck.

Answer 9

I don't think you will enjoy it at all if you don't take your baby.
You will be worried all the time about the baby. That is the way God created women. You will want to know if the baby is ok every moment you are gone. I don't think he will enjoy it at all if you do take your baby. He will not be happy if the baby is with you because you will not get to do all the things he is wanting to do. The baby needs a lot of attention that you as a mother will give it. Let's face it a baby wants to be the center of your world at all times. So you have to decide who you want to enjoy your vacation.

Answer 10

If it's a once in a lifetime trip somewhere, why not? If you're baby is doing ok, I say go for it.

I wouldn't go longer than a week, that's the longest I've been in Europe, too expensive now anyway : )

Believe me, when you actually have the baby, you will be grateful for having people who will offer to watch your baby for that long! Most people don't have that luxury. So with that, I don't feel bad for you !

Answer 11

I couldn't have done that, why couldn't you take the baby with the family member and they stay at the motel while you and your husband share some alone time? Try to stay away from the baby as much as possible, but when you feel weak, the baby is near by.