my GF has accused me of having an affair becase of misinformation from others. this centers around a bar that we both frequent and the gossip stopping going there won't help because the damage has been done. What do I do now
2007-12-20 02:06:29 · 19 answers · asked by Ralph a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
BE HONEST. If your actions led others to believe that you cheated then explain that to her. Also it's important to DEFINE cheating. For some people...it means SEX for others it means just having a close relationship with someone secretly. In my book....cheating ...even on an emotional level is wrong. Ask yourself if you would carry on in the same way if your GF was standing right beside you and you'll have your answer. If you REALLY love her then fight hard for her and re-define what is and what is not acceptable in your relationship moving forward. Talk to her before someone else does. Good Luck!!
2007-12-20 02:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, because if it is gossip, it is probably a stretch of the truth... Like if you met a woman there and you gave her a hug, that may have stretched into an affair... You need to be honest, and if she accepts that, then fine... If not, time to move on. No sense in being in a relationship where there is no trust.
2007-12-20 10:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know the female she is accusing you of having an affair with...If ya'll go to the same bar where the rumors started...Go to the source and get them to straighten the whole thing out..... If she knows the female let the female straighten everything out...If no ine wants to speak it's your word against theirs....And ur word might not work....
2007-12-20 10:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by Tha Blessed One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did face up to it >If not than tell her so If she won't believe you than you don't need her>As it will only get worse>Might want to stay out of the gossp center at your bars>Loose lips sinks ships>
2007-12-20 10:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do now is dump her because she believes others' words over yours. If I were in your situation, I would feel too insulted by being called a liar and a cheater to be able to forgive her. You deserve an abject apology.
2007-12-20 10:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u did it just fess up and be a man.......if u didn't u need to find the person that started these rumors and find out why they did what they did?........if u tell her u did not do it and she does not believe u either she has proof or she has trust issues, and there is more going on than u know of.
2007-12-20 11:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Donna G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like some serious trust issues dude - of your own creation. Live and learn.
Could have her ask the "supposed other woman" to prove you aren't lying.
2007-12-20 10:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by Prophet 1102 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do. You can't keep people from talking or spreading gossip. If your gril does not trust you, you really have no relationship of any substance.
2007-12-20 10:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. If you really didn't have an affair, there should be nothing to worry about.
2007-12-20 10:09:32 · answer #9 · answered by Alexa_V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer to take a lie detector test.
2007-12-20 10:09:20 · answer #10 · answered by nosillenhoj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋