Pregnancy: Nice ways of saying no to things??

Question

Im 37.5 weeks pregnant and had an ultrasound yesterday. Found out that my baby is large and tommorrow at my appointment I will find out if they will induce me, schedule a C-Section or do nothing.

I had a really bad morning and just need to mellow out and take it easy. My girlfriend is home from college and called me yesterday. I haven't seen her since my shower and would like to see her I just can't do it today.

I don't want to offend her and I think she will take it the wrong way. Whats a nice way of saying I just can't right now?

Answer 1

She shouldn't take it wrong.

You just say, "I really want to see, but man I am so exhausted and cranky it wouldn't be any fun! But make sure you give me a call."

She's your friend. She'll totally understand.

I felt really bad because I had to do this to my best friend while I was home in the U.S. visiting. I saw her a few times and was supposed to see her a week before I left to come back to Korea. I was so whipped (I was in my 3rd month at the time) and stressed out with packing that I just had to say, "Love ya but I just can't do it." And she totally understood.

Answer 2

I understand, since pregnancy I've become a total hermit, I just really enjoy sitting at home alone and relaxing when I actually get the chance now, not that I don't love my friends anymore, I just don't seem to want anyone's company but my husband. Luckily, you're pregnant. Use that. Call her and tell her you miss her, but you are full term and wildly uncomfortable and would just like to take a few days to rest before parenthood begins and you don't have the chance anymore.

Answer 3

HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY!!!!!!!
If she happens to need an explanation like 1 other person here said just explain to her your dr. said to take it easy and be off your feet as much as possible.In your condition you need not to stress yourself to much so hopefully for her sake she will understand and will make the offer of coming over for a nice calm visit so you can take it easy. CONGRATS on the new little one. Have fun with your precious little one and always put you and your child first before anyone else. your health and the babies health comes first.

Answer 4

Just tell her you would love to see her but she would have to come over for tea or something relaxing right now because you are under a lot of stress and don't feel well. I'm sure she would understand that your to tiered to be doing anything at this point.

Answer 5

I would start by saying how excited you are that she is in town and can't wait to see her and ask if getting together tomorrow works for her. Just be open and honest....you're pregnant and she really should understand the need to rest when you're this far along.

Answer 6

you could just tell her you are really tired and not feeling up to it. be honest.........you need your rest and are preparing for the baby. tell her how incredibly exhausted you are. she will understand.

if that won't work because she's a pushy person or eager to see you and "help out" when you really just need some alone time........say you have diarrhea. i know that sounds gross but no EVER questions the diarrhea excuse. they are never interested in the details and will understand. i know its a lie.....but it's just a little white lie and it's for a good cause.

Answer 7

You got the Pregnancy Card...use it.

Tell her you were all prepared to see her, but you are feeling really yucky and hope you can get with her over the weekend instead.

She wont be offended. If she is, she isnt much of a friend.

Feel better...I think you'll be fine.

Answer 8

Explain it to her the way you explained it to us, plus add that the doctor has given you instructions to take it easy and not over extend yourself with activity or visitors. For the health of you and your baby. If she can't understand that, then that is her problem not yours.