I hate my job. The other office manager I had just recently left after 8 1/2 years. Now the other woman I work with is office manager. She wants me to let her know every flippin fart I do. It's just ridiculous. A patient called because his family was getting life insurance on his mother and wanted her records for the past 2 years. I left a note in the doctor's box so he could give them the info that they needed and the patient wanted to know the fastest way to get the info. That's where I left it off. He had me copy the info they needed but that was it. Then apparently the patient's son showed up after I left. I got yelled at this morning and told I need to communicate more. I told her right out I did not know that anyone was going to be coming in. I mean aren't I right that since the doctor was the last to speak to them of how they would get the info he should have said something to her? I feel like crying...I'm tired of being put down.
2007-12-20 01:27:06 · 8 answers · asked by Brownie12866 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It just seems to me like she thinks I can't do my job right because she wants me to let her know everything I do. The other office manager never said anything like that to me.
2007-12-20 01:27:51 · update #1
Sounds like she has no self comfidence and is worried about her own job and needs to know everything to feel she is in control. People like this usually wind up cheating themselves right out of their job. Do what you feel is the right thing. Worry about your job and not what she is saying to you that hurts your feelings. The Dr. is going to see right through it. Give her time she will end up screwing herself in the end.
2007-12-20 01:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by Beverly C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things are different now and you have to accept that. If what you did was acceptable under the old office manager, but isn't under the new one, then you'll have to change the way you do things or find another job. It's that simple. I understand your frustration --- no one likes to be micro-managed, and no one likes getting yelled at. Frankly, I fail to see the need for her to yell at you for something like this. She wants more or better communication from you, then resorts to yelling and put downs --- seems a bit contradictory to me. This situation would have been a perfect opportunity for her to 'teach' you the way she'd like to have things done.
Don't allow this woman to 'shut you down.' I can sense in your question that you are beginning to feel worthless and defeated. Don't give your new boss that kind of power of you.
Take some time when you are away from work and remember your accomplishments. Make a list of all that you do, and include the intangeables --- the things that your presence brings into the office. Keep this in a file on your computer at work, and look at it every time you feel down. The purpose of this list is to remind you that you are valuable --- that you are multi-faceted, and your abilities combined with who you are as a person, makes a positive impact in your office. If you are able to keep a firm grasp on these facts, then you will be able to stand up to your boss in a constructive manner. This confidence is necessary especially if you decide to look for another job.
2007-12-20 10:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not defending her really, but often times when people are put in a new position of management they way over due it! They think they have to CHANGE a bunch of things to make it seem like they're better than the manager before. I think you should tell her EVERY SINGLE LITTLE THING YOU"RE DOING...It will drive her nuts, even tho it's whats she's basically asking for. Be nice, but over do it! She'll chill out in time.
2007-12-20 11:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by Amos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were doing a fine job in the past. So it seems that the new manager has issues. Are you much prettier than her? Maybe she is jealous of you because you are beautiful or have a nice figure and she doesn't.
2007-12-20 09:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by Cas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were not good at your job you would not be their so long. One thing you have to relise is that if she is like this to you she probably is like it to others.
She is not very good at her job really otherwise she would communicate with you better and bring out the best in you, and let you get on with it. If she carries on i would have a word with her use I statements and then you are less likely to yell and blame and if she dosent stop being a pain in the butt i would go higher and make a formal complaint. She is just exerting her power abuseing it and she sounds immature and arrogant.
2007-12-20 09:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like its time for a sit down conversation. Ask her what her goals for the office are, and the reasons for knowing your every move. Let her know that you're an adult that deserves to be treated with the same respect that she expects for herself. Don't take it personal.... its only business. Communication is important on both parts in order to reach common goals. Let her know that you want to understand her goals, but that you won't be bullied like a child. Stand your ground now, or she will continue to bully.
2007-12-20 09:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by mom4_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have a right to be upset! You didn't do anything wrong. Try to forget about it and just do your job. If it gets too bad, find another job - life's too short!
2007-12-20 09:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by feline_farmer1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you doing ok they r in the wrong so $mile
2007-12-20 09:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by Tina P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋