2007-12-20 01:11:34 · 32 answers · asked by WTamSP 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
he suffers from severe depression I under stand its my mum who doesnt
2007-12-20 01:18:23 · update #1
It is entirely up to you
- you can go ahead with your plans and hope he will eventually 'jolly up' and join in with the celebrations.
- you can just not do Christmas
- you can go and celebrate Christmas elsewhere and leave him on his own for the day.
We have made the decision as family not to do the big thing at Christmas this year and will just be having an ordinary family meal with a couple of gifts.
it is very hard for someone - particularly when depressed to be told this is the happiest time of year and this is the time when everything is wonderful. A few days off work and some presents do not change life that dramatically.
Good luck - if he is not receiving help or medication from the GP he needs to go and see them as soon as possible.
2007-12-20 01:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hubby and I don't make a big deal about exchanging gifts. I figure that the household money is OUR money -- so anything I buy him would simply come from the household funds or be put on the credit card. So what's the point? I usually find him something small ... a DVD or book or something like that. He usually buys me a cookbook. Or we may splurge together on something for the house -- last year we got a new tv. And yes, I usually buy him cordial cherries this time of year becuase he likes them, but that's just part of the regular grocery run. EDIT: Oh -- forgot to talk about traditions. We don't celebrate Christmas (Jewish household), but on Christmas eve hubby and daughter always drive around town to look at the lights. For Hannukah -- we eat too many potato pancakes. Pink -- are you sending hubby on the cruise alone? Or are you going too?
2016-05-25 03:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi all, I'm Big D Tams husband.
a lot of you need to understand what is meant by me not wanting Christmas this year.
As the question has said I suffer from severe depression and I'm on medication that has recently been messed about by the doctor, having seriously bad results. At this moment in time I'm still trying to get my life back into some sort of order, which is not easy for me or Tam.
I have never once told my wife that we will not have Christmas, I am the one who doesn't want it at the moment. I will be taking Tam over to her mums so she can have Christmas with her family, and if I decide to join them I will go over on Christmas day. Also we are going to have our own Christmas when I feel better.I will add that all those people who give these silly answers i.e. "Kill him" "find a new husband" or "tell him to lighten up" I would not wish depression on anyone, if it wasn't for the support of family and friends around me I would be dead by now. Thank you to all the people who have given supportive answers. To all others please google depression so you can understand it, before putting sufferers down.;
2007-12-20 04:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
That's very hard. I know my Grandma doesn't want anything to do with Christmas anymore. Depression is a hard one.
I've been fighting it all year long. I'm sorry, Tam but there is no easy solution. Someone will always be put out. Best of luck! Love you!
♥D
2007-12-20 11:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to either enjoy himself or you're going to beat him until he does..
I hate Christmas too but I'm not depressed at all.. I just don't like to play the game so I don't play the game.
go do Christmas somewhere else.. Tell him you are going to go have some fun. he can either go or not go and make it clear that you want him with you but you're going either way.
I still go to all the parties with my wife because it's good to make appearences.. All part of networking and being known in the community.
He's using his "illness" to avoid contact with your family and it works for him so he will continue this behavior of being a victim. I bet he uses this excuse for other things too because you let him and it works.. Does the man have a job? Does he help around the house or is he too depressed for this too? Is he over weight? Does he get his butt off the sofa and do anything at all?
2007-12-20 03:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by slim 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Christmas is going to come whether he likes it or not. so to bad! Plus it'll be good for him. Christmas is the best time of year. It'll help his depression if anything. Nothing can cheer you up more than being around people you love/ and love you.
2007-12-20 01:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by starkizz4u 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not a big holiday fan and have been known to shy away from them. I have 2 kids and they totally understand. WE will usually keep it low key and have Chinese food and play games. This year for Thanksgiving my fiance really wanted me and the kids to meet his family. I did decline the invite and they understood. I promised to spend both holidays with them for 2008. There must be a compromise between you and your husband. your mom needs to stay out of it.
2007-12-20 01:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by Amelia J 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's also very selfish. So he's depressed so everyone else has to suffer. Whether he wants it or not christmas is here - it your call really, you can either stay with him and have no christmas or leave him to it and go and do something without him.
2007-12-20 02:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by LillyB 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Christmas sucks. People are cheap and fake. Have a nice day.
2007-12-20 04:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you mean he doesn't want to participate in Christmas, as there will be one whether he wants it or not. That shouldn't stop you or anyone else from enjoying it. You can do whatever you want, let him be a party pooper if he wants. It will be hard not to get into the spirit when there are decorations, trees, lights, music.
What's his problem anyway?
2007-12-20 01:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by aml0017 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋