I am about 3 months and I was wandering if you are a parent you could tell me how you would react or if you ever had to tell your parents your were pregnant how it went. I am really scared cuz both my parents yell a lot and are not understanding. I know I have to tell them soon so I can go to the doc to have a check up. Plz any advice or ideas are welcome. I plan on keeping the baby and I know that I need to grow up and love the baby more than I love myself. Thanx in advance for any answers.
2007-12-20 00:23:00 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
take a body guard with you when you tell them.
2007-12-20 00:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 4⤋
I had my son when I was 13 and was scared to death to tell my mother. Unfortunately, my sister found out and beat me to it. My mother was disappointed that she didn't hear it from me first. Having a baby doesn't instantly make you mature, but the first step would be to sit your parents down today and tell them what you have done and what your choice is as far as keeping the baby. I'm sure your parents love you and although you may not like their initial response, they will calm down and things will work out. For the baby's sake, you need to let them know so that you can get started with your prenatal appointments. And whatever you do, DO NOT QUIT SCHOOL! My son is now 15 and though he realizes his mother is a lot younger than his friends' parents, he has everything and more that an older parent could've given him mentally, physically, spirtually and financially. I want to emphasize the best thing you can do for your baby is to go to your prenatal appointments and STAY IN SCHOOL. There are many programs that will help you with daycare, etc. all the way through college. Just make sure you are ready to be there for your baby 100% because there will be no more hanging out with your friends because that only takes the time away that you should be spending with your child and hanging out is the least of your concern from here on out.
If you have anymore questions, please feel free to ask away. Good Luck!
2007-12-20 00:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by MIMI 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As you state in your question "I know I need to grow up and love the baby more than i love myself" well the first step in growing up and putting the baby first is owning up to what has happened and telling your parents what your plan is. I am sure they will yell because this affects them too. It is not like at 13 you can go out and get a job and support this child, you still have to legally go to school until you are 16 so your poor planning affects them just as much as you, and actually financially it affects them more than you. So step one in being an adult is recongnizing what has happened, accept that you are not going to make them happy with this mistake and work (as an adult) with them to make the situation work.
Good luck to you.
2007-12-20 01:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by karenlanea2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father put the fear of God into me and I knew if I got pregnant he would kill me--I was convinced of it when I was a teenager and today I'm 58 and I still believe that he would have! However, with that said, I know in my heart of hearts that he would not have. He yelled and blustered a lot, but he still loved me and he most probably would NOT have actually killed me, but he sure did make me believe he would.
Honey, with that said, go to your parents as soon as possible and confess to them that you've made a mistake and you know they are not going to be happy, but that you're pregnant and they are going to be grandparents. Leave room for them to discuss with you the reality of you keeping that baby or giving it up for its own good. How well equipped are you to raise a baby? How about your education? How do you think you could support it? And how good of a mother do you think you will be at 14 (in today's world you have to have at least a high school diploma to flip hamburgers--is this how you want to spend your whole life)? Try to keep the baby's welfare in mind and if your parents suggest an alternative to keeping it, try to keep an open mind and listen to what they have to say. They will undoubtedly have to support you . . . and later on, you AND your baby. It isn't easy to raise a baby even for an adult with a good education. If you love your baby you will do what's best for it, even if that means giving it up for adoption . . . and listen to your parents. They love you and they are only going to want what's best for both you and their grandchild.
Like it or not, you're now in the world of adults and, with a child, ypu will be expected to behave like one. In the future take the responsibility to use birth control and do not do this to yourself,or another child, again.
Good luck. I'll keep you in my prayers.
2007-12-20 00:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by LadyBug 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation. I was 15 when I got pregnant. I was so scared to tell my parents. At first it was not easy. Yes they got mad then they told me whatever I decided they would stand behind me. At that point I considered my options with my boyfriend of 3 years what to do. We put her up for adoption. We get letters and pictures all the time. So what ever you and your parents decided remember there is a little innocent child inside of you. But please just tell them so that you can get checked out.
2007-12-20 00:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by dangerous22303 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell them and soon for sure. Is there an adult friend you can tell first and take with you when you tell your parents? This might help to reduce their reaction.
On keeping the baby, don't! Carry it full term and then give it up for adoption. You are 13 and are not ready to be a parent, so be a kid now and a parent later.
2007-12-20 00:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by Carl W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh man hon this is a tough one.yeah you made a huge mistake and your so younf yourself.did your mom not talk to you about sex and consequences?either way you said parents wouldnt be understanding and yell alot thats not good either it sounds like mom and dad need to learn some patience and understanding but regardless you are going to have to tell them your already 3 months you cant hide it much longer plus you need to get medical attention for you ad that baby.i would just tell them you screwed up wjhat you did and your pregnant but dont expect them to be all happy and cheery.i have 2 children and am 12 weeks pregnant with my 3rd as well and if my daughter came home and told me she was preg at 13 i would be extremly mad but then i would be there for her and be supportive.there are underlying issues with you i think because at 13 you shouldnt have been having sex anyways and parents need to get to the root of that problem.you have alot of choices to make right now esspecially when it comes to baby can you financially and emotially handle a baby it takes alot hon even some grown ups cant handle that.and i also think that who ever got you pregnant needs to be made aware as well as his parents.i wish you the best of luck you have a long road ahead of you.
2007-12-20 00:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just sit them down and tell them..yes they will be angry at first but then im sure they will settle down..It wont be easy,take what comes your way. Also at 3 months pregnant there arnt many options you can take apart from keeping the baby. You need to tell them for support and for the babys health and your own. Good luck
2007-12-20 00:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen...not much anybody on here can really say...you know you're parents better than anybodyelse...you know that they will be angry - of course they will...only natural...I'd be REALLY angry if my 13 year old child told me she was pregnant...and equally as angry if my 13 year old son got another girl pregnant....but time will hopefully calm your folks down...is the father the same age as you or older? If he's 16 or over...he could be in bother...especially if your parents get really mad...is he going to support you? You (and your parents) need to also ensure that he is held responsible too and supports you and baby...he made that decision too remember...good luck to you - it's going to be a tough road ahead for you - but people do it and people get through it..it's called life.
2007-12-20 00:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by Frank 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds too late for an abortion. you are also too young to even think u can pull off being a mommmy. heck, the kid will be inschool by the time u WOULD HAVE been graduating. Tell ur parents that u are, hat u are scared, and that u thought it thru, and want to give the baby away for adoption. i feel bad for the kid though, ur body may not even be able to handle giving birth at such a young age,.
2007-12-20 01:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie. You've gotta tell them! Yeah, they're going to be mad. But there's no other way out of it. I was grown and my mother was still mad that I was pregnant! ( I'm the eldest so it was another turning point in life ) Judging by your last sentence, you know what kind of changes that are about to happen in your life, and I think you'd be fine. But first things first, tell your parents. ( it's part of growing up. facing our fears )
Edit: Aangie said what I wanted to tell you but I thought that I was the only one who caught the part about your parents yelling at you. That's not a good thing...I also liked one of the posters idea about getting a teacher or someone to mediate. That will at least soften the blow. Good luck and again, please, if you need someone to talk to, ask one of us!
2007-12-20 00:37:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋