Does that even work?
I've never been able to get along with gay-acting gay people. I'm absolutely fine with str8 acting gay people and i prefer hanging with str8 guys but im not exactly the straightest acting gay person myself.
WTF is wrong with me lol!?
Am i not really gay? Am I just screwed in the head?
2007-12-19 22:27:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, I totally understand. When the gay guys start all that camp talk and acting sissy I don't relate at all, nor are they at all sexy.
I also have found it easier to have friendships with straights (M&F) because it's not all about sex. Just because there's a shortage of people like you and me doesn't mean there's something wrong, so go out and celebrate.
2007-12-19 22:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by topink 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
How can you know you are Gay?
What do you mean by Gay acting people? Effiminates? But buddy we are from being all effeminate guys and guess what among those so called straight people that you carve for there are undoubtedly some Gay guys evgentually discreet or still in the closet.
Gay nature is being exclusively attracted to other men and falling in love with another man. If you fell like this then undoubtedly you are Gay.
2007-12-19 23:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by Minotaure 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're talking about disliking guys that act very feminine. Being "gay" means more than acting a certain way -- it's an entire subculture with its own history and values. Just like you can't say that being "Asian" is only about being born in Asia. So maybe you dislike one part of the gay subculture and that is that some gay guys are going to act feminine, but you still identify with most of the other aspects of gay culture.
If you say you're gay, then you're gay. But if you are in conflict about that, then maybe you should learn more about the gay identity and what constitutes it.
2007-12-22 13:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Eric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out about you being gay first.
Being gay doesn't mean being "screwed up" as homosexuality is not a mental health disorder or some kind of virus, infection eccetera.
You are questioning your personality...
No answer can be a good answer, to your question even if it would be answered from a person who knows you.
The question can be answered only by yourself.
2007-12-23 08:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
saying you are gay and not liking gay people is ungood. you have conflicts inside and until you find a way to resolve this, it's going to really drag your life down.
the beginning place for any kind of change has to be self acceptance, warts and all. perhaps you could start by asking yourself, about the label 'gay' do you feel that you might have got bullied into accepting it too soon?
then, perhaps you could work on your friendships with ordinary guys. can you improve them? make them more equal? more rewarding. more of it. more contact, more comfort (well, you get the idea) go out of your way to do things with the guys in your life, movies sports video games whatever. build on this strength.
also, i would google narth, people can change or get in touch with the men's movement. start to get some real information from real guys about how the boys' club runs
i wish you luck
2007-12-19 23:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you and yes you really are gay.The gay community is very diverse.You are not going to like every gay person.Don't worry about it either.Like you,I prefer to be around straight acting gay guys.I also cherish my straight male friends.Some people seem to think it's politically incorrect these days to be a straight acting gay man.I say they can eat my shorts.And they are probably just jealous that they aren't straight acting and can't be,no matter how hard they try.
2007-12-19 23:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have struggled with that my whole life. Your circle of friends and tolerance to people does not dictate your lifestyle by any means. I don't have much in common with the average gay guy either. But you have to realize that you are not getting a realistic cross section of the gay community if you are just going to gay bars and parties. Just stop going to gay bars, you don't have to, and don't have to feel bad about yourself because you don't like drag queens and circuit parties.
There is a hugely vast gay community encompassing all sorts of people. Just most of the nice small town guys (my personal faves) and all taken and living with their bf's. That's how it goes for me anyway.
But if you are going for butch and jock guys they are out there. There are gay cycling groups, gay sports groups, camping groups, even the Gay Games where olympic trained athletes who are gay compete for world titles. Broaden your horizons and you will be fine.
2007-12-20 02:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just don't like the attention that most gay people look for. that's no different then a straight person not wanting to hang out with a straight person who is loud, rowdy, and a complete fool in public. it's doesn't mean your not who you are, you just prefer to hang out with people who act more like adults
2007-12-19 22:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all gay people are flaming queens. It's a matter of one's personality. I've never been the butchest guy in the world but I'm not the fluffiest either. Everyone is different in their own ways.
2007-12-19 22:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mikey D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are just being homophobic because you have been brainwashed into thinking that being gay is "wrong" and you have hang ups about it. Once you are more comfortable with yourself you'll realise that there's nothing wrong with "gay acting" people.
What is a "straight acting" gay man? One who has sex with women and not men?
2007-12-19 22:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by thatgaybloke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋