When I was about 15 I had this 'thing' for my really good friend. I told her that I had feelings for her, and she told me that she felt the same way.
Anyway I stayed the night at her house. We kissed, did a bit more.. I really liked it and she did too. She kept saying she 'wish we could go further'.
Well ever since then we haven't talked unless we've bumped into each other. It's really awkward. I don't regret what we did, but I miss having her as a friend.
Have anyone been through this? Is there any possibility things could go back to normal?
Thanks =]
2007-12-19 22:12:02 · 18 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
That's great? Would you like a prize or something?
2007-12-19 22:16:03 · update #1
I do love my boyfriend and she is also in another relationship. I don't want to be anymore than just friends with her. Before it all happened she was the only one I could trust.
2007-12-19 22:23:45 · update #2
I'm 18, she's 17. Yes before and after.
2007-12-19 22:37:40 · update #3
no... but I wish I did! whee! what fun! all I have are my fantasies in my head!!!!
2007-12-19 22:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hi Wabby, I think we all have been attracted to the same sex at one time or the other. But most of us know our limits and try to just be friends. Wabby i don't really know if you and her could go back to being just friends. You both have cross a line that will probably cause you to go even farther than you both really want to. Have a good talk with her and see if you and her can only be good friends and put what happen in the past. Talk to her and see.
A Friend,
poppy1
2007-12-20 21:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by poppy1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens often. It seems to be because the both of you have a secret that only the other one knows. Neither of you are ready to come out with this secret so there's the awkward silence. Everyone's going to say this but talking to her is the only way to break that awkward feeling. Try asking her out to do some of the stuff you used to do before. Maybe, slowly, if you start acting like the friends you were, You'll find your relation to each other coming back to normal. Good Luck
2007-12-20 06:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Mikey D 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I've been through this as well, except it was with a guy obviously, and all I can say is if she has regrets about it, you probably can't get back what you had. That doesn't mean you won't retain some kind of friendship, but don't expect too much.
My friend was a little weird for a while, but he is still my good friend to this day and it has been years.
Good Luck!
2007-12-20 06:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by bzyboi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Sarah,
The awkwardness you experience, when you encounter your friend, is due to inchoate communication. Your sexual contact with her, is a secondary issue. It is not about sex per se.
Your relationship with her, may be readily normalized by clearing the air, i.e., by saying what was unsaid. Encourage her to do the same. Honest, and open communication, will work wonders.
Larry
2007-12-22 11:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Larry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long ago is that, have either of you had relationships before or relationships now?
I say: Bring it up. The thought has definitely crossed her mind.
And since you haven't seen her a while, it's not like you are losing a friend if she says no.
It's scary but then again: You have nothing to lose. Do it!
2007-12-20 06:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by mgerben 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well call her up and tell her you would like to hang out. On your profile it says you have a boyfriend of 3 years, so you are probably very happy, so you really wouldnt have to worry about anything happening with that girl again if you love your man as much as you say.
2007-12-20 06:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by southern_q_t21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This happens to alot of people, I can't say everyone has experienced feelings for the same gender, but alot have. (I know I have) and I am straight.
I have never gone into what you have, I just kept it to myself, it eventually just left me, just a 1 time experience. I think most people keep it to themselves.
Its no big deal.
2007-12-22 04:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Wabby,
A good friendship is like any other relationship worth having... It takes work.
Don't expect her to be the only one to pick up a phone and call. Hint Hint.
Marry Christmas,
PennyAnn
2007-12-20 06:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love is the art of patience and persistence and if you want to have a relationship with your friend you will have to work at it and not just wait that things happen....
2007-12-20 07:28:24 · answer #10 · answered by Minotaure 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ive been through that before with a friend and we juss stayed friends we didnt mention it anymore because she had a girlfriend but thats still my friend most definitely but sometimes there is a lil sexual tension between us sometimes we act on it sometimes we dont but whichever one happens we are still friends she tells me about her situation wit her g/f and we talk about everything else.
2007-12-20 06:32:22 · answer #11 · answered by C dawg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋