hi i've been going out with my bf now for 16years have 4 kids together but i think he is having it off with someone else how can u tell if he is are not
2007-12-19 20:41:34 · 22 answers · asked by hot hot hot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you've had your boy friend for 16 years?!? wow congrats to you! but maybe he feels like he wants to date other people since he known you for so long and that inst right. why are you thinking he is dating other women? well sit down and talk with him. make sure you give him more time together with out the kids. maybe try using the guilt trip to. you know 'I'm so glad we love each other. there is no one El's i would rather be with then you.' or 'you don't know how important you are to me. i would never let any think or any one come in between us' good luck!
~» hannah
2007-12-20 03:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by hannah h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in a relationship also we have four kids together too and 3 grandchildren , i found that he would say he had to stay late at work or he is going to help a friend fix his car he just had to many places to go at certain times i cook dinner he says oh i grabed a bite on the way home i started to worry he changed some habits he was dressing better and wore different colone so one night i told him look we are both adults here I want to know right now if somthing is going on Because i don't want to be the last to know plus i was afraid of catching somthing from him sleeping around . It took awhile but he admitted it and all these years are gone i could not forgive I spent all these Years faithful and he broke a long time relationship with it i can never trust him again It is over
2007-12-20 04:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by Hulagirl96734 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well , 1st of all you have to make sure that what you say is for sure ,causz if it is not then he's gonna say you don't trust him and that could put up a barrier between the two of you.what i advise you to do is to approach him calmly about it and hear him out to see his side of the story, as men always have a different side. look into your relationship and the both of you should talk , because of the 4 kids maybe he will go outside and try to have something on the side, you know what i mean...
try and find time for the both of you to go out and get that spark back into your life.have dinner together and get someone to babysit the kids....
if things don't work out see if can both go to a counsellor.
2007-12-20 04:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by the bright side of life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with someone for 16years you should be able to tell if they are cheating or not.
2007-12-20 04:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by babygirldlls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 yrs? Why hasent he proposed? Why not bring up marriage and see if he freaks or what his reaction is. If youre worried about cheating then spy on him through telephone bills, messenger, look through his cell phone when hes sleep, ummm if you get desperate ask him and if he denys it, come home early from work one day. Good Luc kand think about what you really want and where is this relationship really going.
2007-12-20 04:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by mistista07 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is best for your kids. If you find that he's cheating on you, leave him. Perhaps hire a P.I. to do this. Leaving him because he's cheating on you will set a valuable example for your children and even though life might be tough... it will be a fresh start.
2007-12-20 04:48:39 · answer #6 · answered by Mice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Should' is not a word that fits well with 'love'. You either love or you don't love. If you suspect that his infidelity then you must have reasons. If that means that you no longer love him then that is just a fact. You are under no obligation to love you just do or don't.
Have you asked him? How did he react? If he became angry when you brought it up then my guess is that he is being unfaithful.
2007-12-20 04:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be straight up with him and ask him. What makes you think he's 'having it off with someone else'? Has for Should I still love my bf,I dont think you can just turn your feelings off...We need some more details please!!!
2007-12-20 04:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by Giggles! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he may be having it off as you put it this does not mean he loves you any less.
why not ask him,
see if it is just the sex he is after and talk about new things you could do together in the bedroom.
kind regards x kitti x
2007-12-20 04:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by misskitti7® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get it in the open . tell him how you feel . IT may be nothing . If you have a strong relationship you will be able to work through this .
2007-12-20 04:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by Mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋