I'm 17 and 6 weeks pregnant. I feel so stupid already so please no one judge me. My boyfriend and my parents are pressuring me to get an abortion but I don't think i could live with myself. My parents have already said no abortion then no place to live. I need some guidance from someone on what I should possibly do.
2007-12-19 19:15:49 · 15 answers · asked by Boo Peep 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No, you're not stupid. Your actions might not have been the best nor the brightest, but it's NOT YOU who is stupid.
Please contact your local Planned Parenthood to talk about your options.
This is the main reason why teen pregnancy is so tough. Oftentimes you are still dependant upon parents or guardians who put you between a rock and a hard place. You've never lived on your own, you can't support yourself (AND a baby), there are so many decisions and responsibilities you've never had -- that you become "forced" to make a decision - oftentimes the only decision offered.
You should try to decide what YOU want to do and present it to your parents. If you decide to keep the baby, there are going to be huge responsibilities and decisions that you MUST be willing to face as an adult - plus you need to continue your education. Can you do it? It's going to be very difficult. You need to sit down with your parents and convince them.
If you decide to give the baby up for adoption it means that you need to find a place to live and support yourself and your unborn child until the baby is born - then emotionally you'll have to deal with things, then you can continue your life, knowing your baby is well taken care of.
The abortion option is probably being offered by your parents because they don't believe you are responsible enough (emotionally nor physically) to deal with the other options available (most teens today aren't, so it's not so personal). They're hoping you've learned a lesson, an abortion will "correct" it and that your life will go on as normal.
In the end, it's your choice, but if you can't handle finishing high school and finding a place to live, there's no way you're ready to keep the baby because there are so many responsabilities you aren't imagining.
Good luck. I wish I could help more.
2007-12-19 19:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
No one can force you to have an abortion.
And, I'm not legal counsel, but I believe that your parents cannot, in fact, kick you out if you are under 18. They are responsible for you until that point.
I'm not going to judge you. We all make mistakes, and once they're done the important part is how we deal with them. Basically, you have three choices that you will have to consider. One is getting an abortion, which you are already sure you don't want. You should still look into it, simply so that you know you understand the option you are not taking. This is a big decision and you should be as fully informed as you can possibly be.
Secondly, you can raise the baby. It doesn't sound like you have a great support structure for that right now (you don't even mention the baby's dad), so it will be hard going if you take this path. It can also be very rewarding, as many a parent can tell you.
Lastly, you can choose adoption. There are many options within this, including getting to help choose the parents and whether or not you continue to have a relationship with the child. On one hand, you are providing people who dearly want a child with one they couldn't otherwise have. On the other, giving up your child forever is something many women find that they cannot do once they have given birth.
No matter what you choose, I wish you luck and hope that your family comes around and remembers that no matter what, you're their daughter and they should be there for you when you need them. I urge you to seek out counselling and support outside your family, whether it be through a church or through school or other social services. No one should have to go through this alone.
2007-12-19 21:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer K 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi lovie i can see where you are coming from because i was pregnant at 17 tooo and i was freakin as well. I never once thought about abortion nor would i let anyone pressure me. If your parents are putting the guilts on you saying that if you dont have an abortion to move out then find a place to live and show everyone you can do it on your own and you dont need there support,, they will soon come around! Trust me! good luck honey!
2007-12-19 19:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by sweet redhead! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, they can't pressure you to do anything. It's your baby. You decide what is right. If you're parents are telling you if you don't get an abortion, then no place to live. What kind of parents are they? What kind of boyfriend is that? Keep your chin up. Don't let them bring you down. Be the smart one.
Learn from this. This is a learning experience. If you have your baby, raise it right. Just remember not to be a parent like yours. Support your child throughout it's whole life. There are decent programs you can find out about. I wish you well and take care.
Violet
2007-12-19 20:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by Violet 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you got pregnant you were already ignoring your parent's advice and opinion, and now you want to do it again.
What kind of life do you have to offer a baby?
No school, no diploma, no job (other than waitress or lap dancing) is open to you. The 'father' will most likely leave for a girl he can have sex with instead of having to change diapers.
Your parents won't turn you out, I am sure. But why don't you listen to them for a change?
It's not like they want you to have an abortion because they hate babies. I think they actually have your best interests at hearth.
And they KNOW what 17 year old 'mothers' turn out like, because they have seen it happen to many other girls.
They don't want to see their own daughter go down that path.
You are heading towards a life where you can't choose what you want to do. Choices will be limited and they will be made for you. That's what your parents are trying to prevent.
Perhaps you should think about the future and what it will look like, instead of shutting those thoughts out. Refusing to look the inevitable future in the face is really a childish thing to do - it shows you are not at all ready for what life can throw at you.
That is all right, since you are only 17.
The situation you are in is really an adult situation. Why don't you draw on the combined life experience of your parents instead of refusing to think about the future until it's too late?
They really, really have your best interests at heart.
2007-12-19 22:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-12-18 05:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way.
If you are to abort, these are the following good reasons.
1. The child will have a terrible life. This is a someone's life we are talking about! Can you support him/her?
2. You might want to continue your education. It's your future too.
3. What will other people think? That's she's a slut?
If you want to keep the baby.
1. It's a child's life, it's called murder!
2. If there's anything else, put it up for adoption.
3. You really know that it was meant to be, and so be it!
Well, there's another way. Go to a counselor or pray about it (Although I'm not religious). Only God knows what...
2007-12-19 20:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
They can't force you to have an abortion. It's your body and your baby.
You need to speak to someone. A teacher, a doctor, a counselor or a family member. Is there a friend of yours that you can stay with in the mean time?
Your parents are probably still very angry and aren't thinking straight. You must do what is right for you, not for anyone else because it'll be you that is unhappy not them.
Good luck.
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2007-12-19 19:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by ★☆✿❀ 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
If your parents will not allow you to live with them unless you get an abortion, you can go to DHS or CPS and get help! There are people out there wanting to adopt a baby. Please don't kill yours; it will bother you the rest of your life. There is help to be had and I feel sorry for your parents' attitude but don't let this ruin your life. All of us make poor decisions but kicking you out is not a good decision for them either. You need help; go find it!!! Blessings!
2007-12-19 20:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents should be supporting you but obviosuly aren't and your boyfriend..well there isn't much to say about him either. If you want to keep it - after all it's your child, find somewhere else to live like with a friend until your parents get the message xx
2007-12-19 20:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋