Her first abortion was about 7-8 months ago
and now she is about 16-19 weeks in. I need to know if that is too late to have the abortion, and if not when is. (We live in Los Angeles CA) also besides emotional damage, would it affect her health in any way? Although I am just a friend in this matter, were close so its kinda emotionally affecting me too.
(Thats why Im asking this question) So I appreciate any help and any extra advice/information that I forgot to ask for.
2007-12-19 18:47:37 · 17 answers · asked by Tee 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
please people i already now she has screwed up a good deal, no need to hear all that, i just need some straight answers please.
2007-12-19 19:01:18 · update #1
I will state this up front, I do not believe in abortion but I do my best to be balanced in my answers.
Abortion does carry risks both emotionally and physically, as does pregnancy itself. Abortion is not a natural process, and so that in and of itself involves risk of damaging the tissues and scarring of the uterus- especially if done via D&C. I've read that it can also place one at higher risk for certain types of cancers (breast cancer for one) because of the abrupt change in hormones. If that's proven I don't know. At 16-19 weeks, this is a fetus with recognizable facial features, etc- if she were to see an image of this a year or more from now- would this bother her? It's a lot more than a lump of cells at this point. I know women who have aborted, then later learned about fetal development and were DEVASTATED to learn what exactly it was they terminated.
Since she's almost 5 months already, is there a reason she will not offer the infant for adoption instead? She's more than halfway through the pregnancy- or just about, and this is a wonderful alternative for some people. I also wonder why wait so late to make this decision? The process is easier, far less traumatic on all involved, when done in the first trimester.
Is it legal- yes. Until she reaches 3rd trimester it IS legal. It will probably be more uncomfortable than an earlier stage abortion. Contact Planned Parenthood regarding specifics of risks, legalities, etc.
I'm glad you are willing to stand by your friend in this trying time, but when it is all said and done I hope you will sit down and have a serious heart-felt talk with her about what she is doing to find herself in these situations. It's not good for her body, or her emotional health. If she's not ready for babies right now there are programs for free or cheap birth control. IUDs, Depo, and Norplant all offer contraception that has to be replaced very infrequently (my favorite is IUD- fewest hormonal side effects). Also, remind her that there are far worse things to catch than a baby- like HIV, hepatitis, etc. You can't abort those, but they change your life forever.
I hope you and your friend do well this holiday season. I hope she chooses wisely and in a way that is true to her heart. Best to both.
2007-12-19 19:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by Nijojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to a dr., but a short answer is that I think she is almost too far along to get an abortion and yes, their are major health risks. Any abortion carries the risk of infection, but at that later stage of pregnancy she may also run the risk of losing to much blood which can turn very deadly very quickly. Also, she really needs to stop having sex or use protection. And if she really doesn't want a baby, she should really look into adoption, it's a much better choice in everyway possible and there are so many people in this world that are desperate for a child and can't have one of their own. Please try and get her to seriously think long and hard about that option.
2007-12-20 02:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by cornejos.2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in the UK you can have a termination right up to 24 weeks. Dunno about over there. Has you friend heard of birth control?? I can not believe your friend want to do this so far into her pregnancy in a few more weeks it would have a 80% chance of survival with the right care. I think its disgusting.
Well her health, i think abortion after abortion isn't good for a woman and even one can cause infertility but as far as I'm concerned shes doesn't deserve anymore chances. I would suggested sterilisation for your friend because she doesn't think of using birth control. I think your friend will cope fine shes done it once and it hasn't affected her so she can do it again. Totally heartless.
If you where concerned about your friend you wouldn't be encouraging this act for the second time tell her there's alot more choices than another abortion. Adoption or even facing up to her responsibilities she got pregnant with this child so she should be looking after it.
2007-12-20 03:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
usually, 24 weeks is the maximum for abortions. Here's a site with abortion links for California: http://www.abortion.com/abortion_clinics_state.php?country=United%20States&state=California
I have a few friends who've had abortions, and they're mentally scarred from the experience, even after their second one. They were still able to have children afterwards, but believe that the miscarriages they suffered were due to the abortions they had previously had (there is little medical knowledge to prove this, however).
Your friend really needs to learn about birth control. Condoms, IUDs, diaphrams, the pill, patch, anything! I've always used condoms, and still do even though I'm now married. I never met a man who wouldn't use one, and I certainly wouldn't have had sex with a guy who wouldn't use protection. Your friend should be happy that she hasn't contracted a disease, as those are just as difficult as unwanted pregnancies, as well as painful and possibly permanent (herpes, AIDS).
While I appreciate the right to choose to have an abortion, it should not be used as primary birth control. Ever.
2007-12-20 03:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by LV 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends where you live. In Ontario, Canada doctors and clinics will do abortion until 20 weeks unless there is a medical reason for it to do done after that.
You could always google "aborting laws in California" and get some info.
2007-12-20 02:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mama To 3 Girls&1 Boy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am in California and I am almost positive that you cannot legally get an abortion after 14 weeks. Has she thought about adoption? I know that is harder than abortion, but at this stage the baby is very developed.
2007-12-20 03:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well i hear that u can have an abortion up until 7 months old ive seen the abortion website and video and its terrible that people do that kind of thing to kill the inocent like that i mean ur the one not protecting urself from getting pregnant and then they get punshed for it its just wrong...
2007-12-20 03:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by idontknow 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea, having too many abortions can make you sterile. She should reconsider. Abortions after 19 weeks are very rare, she may be stuck with this one. Wish her the best. pray for her.
2007-12-20 03:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Taylor Madison born 083108 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most doctors will not give an abortion after the first 14 weeks and you shouldnt ask this question on here... Tell your friend she should probably get on birth control or keep her legs closed.
2007-12-20 02:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Presley's Mommy 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Any abortion can affect her health mentally or psychically.I have had them and it will affect her for a lifetime. i had complications since.i don't know how late you can go you have to call the office she plans on doing it at.
2007-12-20 02:53:50 · answer #10 · answered by jaclyn130 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋