seems self-defeating if you ask me
being gay is no big deal. so why spend your whole life asserting your sexual orientation so overtly?
i would liken it to stupid PC censorship of lyrics - if radio stations just played the records instead of making a fuss over one or two words, nobody would care
similarly for sexual orientation
2007-12-19 17:51:35 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
anthony p
you said - what matters is what kind of person you are, not who your sleeping with!
which is the point of the question!
2007-12-19 18:05:23 · update #1
True that.
2007-12-19 17:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mitch M 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I don't know if I've got the gist of your question right but, I'll attempt an answer anyway!
I don't define myself by my sexual orientation, far from it! I've hidden it from my family to this day, mainly, because I know it would dissapoint them and also it would then make THEM define me by that, they have some archaic views on homosexuality and tend to sterotype the typical 'gay/lesbian'. (I've tried in vain, to educate them!!).
There was a period where I was obsessed with my sexuality, because everyone around me who was straight, was getting 'settled' and marrying off.
Every family/friend occasion would inevitably end with a "do you have a boyfriend yet?, I can't believe a nice young man hasn't swept you off your feet! You better hurry and find a nice man, or it'll be too late! Your waiting for Prince charming aren't you?!" ..........YAWN!!!
NO, I'm waiting for Cinderella actually, I'd have loved to say that!!!
The world and the media make 'coming out' such a big deal, look at all the celebrities, who have been pressurised into making a BIG statement to the world about "my big secret........I'M GAY!", probably because someone somewhere (tabloid), had a story about them and their secret.
I think in the real world, people want you to define who you are, to some extent because they want to know where they stand with you, so that only serves to remind you 'what' you are. I guess it's a bit like telling people your interests. Although you don't hear heterosexuals saying, 'I need to tell you something, I'm straight'!
It's a weird world this.......or so I think anyway! : )
2007-12-20 12:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? You think being gay is no big deal? I was in the Army. my whole life was based around not letting anyone know I was gay, because it would end my career. I think it did anyway. I was discharged from the Army early due to health problems, but I think was actually discharged because it became known what my sexual orientation was. If you think being gay is not a big deal you couldn't be more wrong. I am an elementary school teacher. Half my parents would freak if they knew for a fact that I was gay. You simply haven't got a clue what you are talking about.
2007-12-20 02:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jack Flanders 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
The only difference between a gay person and a straight person, is what they do in the privacy of their bedrooms. People of any sexual orientation should define themselves by how they lead their lives outside of the bedroom. (ie: I am a good person, I am a kind person, I work hard, and live my life without shame or regret). Heterosexuals don't run around yelling I'm straight, so why should a gay yell out his life style?
2007-12-20 02:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kukla 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I never do that... in fact only my closest friends and family (and only my nuclear family at that) know that I'm with another girl.
It's just you don't see people like me as gay, because looking at me or talking to me you would never tell, but then you take those people with whom it is obvious and think that all gay people are like that, because those are the only ones you can actually identify as gay, if you get my point.
2007-12-20 18:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gay. I don't care who knows it; but I don't wave a flag about it. People are aware that my life partner is another man. What more needs to be said? I think a lot of us gay people have to chill out a little. At the same time we're caught in a bind when it comes to politicians wanting to legislate against us or not pass laws that give us the stated protections given to other groups in society. We have to fight that kind of thing. I think, too, that when a lot of people think about gay people they only see the sex part of it all. We're much more than than, believe me; but people get freaked about the sex part and forget the rest of who we are. This gives rise to the fear that is born of ignorance and which is a plague on any rational society.
2007-12-20 01:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Richard B 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I am Gay but don't go around shouting it from the roof tops but on the other hand I never deny it if someone asks me if I am gay I will tell them honestly yes I am but otherwise I just carry on like anyone else
2007-12-20 12:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is just to let people know where they stand. You can either befriend this gay person. Or, if you feel uncomfortable or not keen on gays, then you can walk away. I mean, what gay person, or for that matter anyone, who wants a two faced friend?
2007-12-20 04:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It works both ways, other people often define gay people by their sexuality.
I'm bi-sexual & I've lost count of the number of times I've been introduced to people as "This is ***.". And I get back, "Oh yes, the lesbian.". I don't define myself by my sexuality, others do it for me. It seems other people make more of a fuss about it than I do.
2007-12-20 02:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mimkat hate the new Yahoo Answers so has retired. 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
So, you think its a fuss because someone says they are gay once in a while? How many gay people do you know actually? because I have know a couple people who were gay, and they didn't walk around stopping every person to ensure they knew they were gay.
Seems self defeating to me that you would post this question when all you want to do is make up fair tale facts about people you are scared of because they are different then you.
2007-12-20 01:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
I know! I know some gays that are just regular people who happen to be gay, and others who its ALL about their sexual orientation. I think its just a struggle to define themselves, and the easiest way is by what makes you different. For example, I also know vegans who are all about it, talk about it constantly. I think its a stage for a lot of people though.
2007-12-20 01:56:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋