Should I let him have his way and have a junior?

Question

I am 24 weeks pregnant. My husband left for Air Force basic training and didn't even give me room for any of the names I liked. We found out we were having a boy and are thrilled because we have a girl and I know he is excited. He wants to name our son after him minus the middle name.

His name is: Nathan Valentino Cortes

Daugther: Jenissa Leilany Cortes

So he wants to name him Nathan but what gets me is he is not even 1) thinking of a middle name 2) thinking of any other names. I would prefer to have our son with a name that starts with an N or a J. And by the way I love the name Nathan; I just want ideas and he's shutting me out completely. So if I should just let him have his way then any ideas on middle names?? I want to see what he says once he's out of training so any ideas will help and thanks in advance. :-)

I was under that impression to and still am. But according to his friends you can remove the middle name.

He's not stressed becase of the war or being possessive. He's in basic. He just turns down everything I'm giving him. He doesn't want to give him Valentino for that exact reason..the bills in the future..credit. I think he just sees it as a open and shut case. Or he really doesn't like any other name except Nathan or doesn't like my taste in Names. He wanted to name our daughter Melanie and everyone shot him down.

Answer 1

Ideally in order to be a junior it would have to be the exact same name, IDEALLY. But I guess I can say I am in the same boat as you. My situation is... When I first started going out with my boyfriend, I was 5 weeks pregnant from my previous boyfriend. Deciding to keep the baby (best decision ever!) I gave him a name we both agreed on, and he is the legal father. We have both agreed that our next boy would be named after his BIRTH name. He was given an Aboriginal name after being adopted as a baby. His name is Gigohns Jeffery, our next boy's first name will be Jeffery, after his birth father. So he will be somewhat of a junior, so what I'm saying is if you think your sone will be a junior then thats all that matters, its your son don't let all this technical mumbo jumbo get in the way! Just to add a thought, I really like Nathan Alexander. sounds young but grown... take care and good luck

Answer 2

There are 2 options. The first option is you could let him have his way and name your son Nathan. The second option is you could use Nathan as the middle name and your still naming your son after him. I think thats a good option and also Nathan Cortes Jr. sounds pretty cool. So I think either way you go it'll be good. I do have some ideas though for middle names for Nathan and also names for using Nathan as the middle name. First off here are some middle name ideas for using Nathan as the first name:

Nathan Thomas Cortes
Nathan Sean Cortes
Nathan James Cortes
Nathan Dean Cortes
Nathan Ray Cortes
Nathan Daniel Cortes
Nathan Ryan Cortes
Nathan Robert Cortes
Nathan John Cortes
Nathan Phillip Cortes
Nathan Zane Cortes

Here are some ideas for using Nathan as the middle name:
Joel Nathan Cortes
Jared Nathan Cortes
Kyle Nathan Cortes
Barrett Nathan Cortes
Hunter Nathan Cortes
Samuel Nathan Cortes
Jace Nathan Cortes
Jacob Nathan Cortes (Jake for short)
Brice Nathan Cortes
Tyler Nathan Cortes
Joshua Nathan Cortes

Answer 3

I think your real problem is that he won't negotiate on this with you. That's very troubling, like his son is his possession. The military will let you get some counseling, I'd take advantage of that.

If the son has the same first name but not the same middle name, then he isn't a junior. That's why President Bush isn't George Bush, Jr., because his father had a different middle name. Personally, I find it confusing when women have a husband and a son with the same name -- how do you know which one she's talking about. In your husband's case, he's behaving like a child, too, but it could be because he's stressed out from the war. Like I said, some counseling could help.

Answer 4

If he wants his son to be an authentic Junior he needs to be named Nathan Valentino Cortes Jr /or just Nathan Cortes Jr without an middle name at all or it won't be legit.

I say call him Nathan James Cortes (or something with a J) but leave out the Jr bit. Nathan is a gorgeous name, its on my shortlist and I'm hoping its another boy for me! He can always call him Junior as a pet name without it being y legit.

Answer 5

i think that you could give him the first name Nathan and then a differant middle name the only problem you run into is if they have the same name even with a junior there bills can get mixed up when there older like say the son has bad credit the dad could get hit with the bill cause they confused the names.

Answer 6

Well, I would name it Nathan and talk to him about what the middle name should be. Or if Nathan is his pick you pick a couple of middle names together. If you remove the middle name its hard to call it a Jr. Get a list of names together and talk to him about it. Middle names I mean. We talked about names and we came up with agreements on some of the names.

Answer 7

Benjamin Nathan Cortes
Jack Nathan Cortes
yes he may still be upset over being shot down over the name melanie. he may be open to compromise with the names above.

Answer 8

im kind of in the same situation. my daughter is 14 months old. im 33 weeks pregnant with a little boy...now....i agreed that if i got to name our daughter, he got to name our next baby (which i didnt think would come back to haunt me Sooooo soon.) but technically, he suggested our daughter's first name, and i liked it, so it was kind of a compromise. Now, he wants to give his son his name, which would be no problem...but he's already a junior! So it would be really confusing when we were around everyone. I wouldnt mind giving him his first name if i could change the middle name (I'd prefer another name besides Tyrone Lex .....maybe James after my dad....So idk! maybe yall can find a way to compromise but i know its hard!!! why do they have to be so hard headed? He could pick the first, while you decide on a middle. After all, the mother gets the final say of what goes on the birth certificate....fyi. lol. good luck.
And technically, you don't have to have a middle name....but ....i dont know why you'd want to exclude that.....
I want to call this baby by his middle name so it wont be so confusing in the house! or atleast a nickname.

Answer 9

I think you should find a name that you both like and can agree to. Using Nathan as a middle name might work as a compromise.

Answer 10

How about Emanuel for a middle name? I think it sounds good: Nathan Emanuel Cortes.

But, I also thought that it had to be the same first, middle and last name to be a Jr.