My ex- boyfriend and I have not talked in 4 years. We have a year old daughter together. I left him, and I have avoided him for 4 years. We are going to meet tomorrow. And I wanted to know how do you win an ex back. I don't want to seem desperate, or vulnerable. I want him to chase me. So what can i do to drive him crazy and make him want to give it a chance. Please help me I need advice.
2007-12-19 17:03:15 · 8 answers · asked by Beautiful 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I am sorry I meant a 5 year old daughter. Typo .
sorry
2007-12-19 17:07:49 · update #1
Thank you for those who realized my typo. He has went to my godparents over the years and asked about our child and me. When I called him he questioned why I left him, and mentioned he has loved us for so long and will always. I am not sure he said it on accident, being caught up in the minute or was just telling the truth.
2007-12-19 17:26:50 · update #2
If you haven't talked in 4 years how do you have a year old daughter together?
2007-12-19 17:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't help but think you are very confused or something negative. So, a couple of years ago y'all got together enough to produce a baby, but you didn't talk? Apparently you didn't avoid him very successfully for four years if you have a baby one year old. What's up with all of this?
If this is a really question I suggest you just don't meet him. You don't say who asked for this rendezvous, but I'm guessing it wasn't him.
Note: Ok, thanks for correcting the time thing. I still feel that if in 5 years he has not contacted you or supported his child or in fact, done anything that shows maturity and caring, you are unrealistic to expect anything except more of the same from him now.
2007-12-20 01:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by LodiTX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, it might be prudent to meet with a third person or a group of people and failing that in a public place.
If you TRY to get him back, its bound to backfire. You can't make anybody do anything they don't want to do...the most you can do is give him the opportunities. Let him know how YOU feel (how do you know; you haven't seen him in 4 years...).
By letting him know how you feel, I don't mean that you should drool all over him, etc., just TALK. Talk about your feelings. (If you have felt desparate all these years, I wouldn't express that--and if you had...what took you so long???)
Be yourself...
anyway, who left who? Sounds like apologies may be in order. Who knows, he may be a little pissed.
2007-12-20 01:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Ravenfeather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your getting a rough time!!! :0
Clearly you put the wrong date by accident. Your not stupid.
I was in a similar situation and I spoke to my ex about the past. The good memories you had.
That really does work.
Going back on what was good - always brings smiles and sends pulses racing.
Try it...I promise it will work :)
Good luck
2007-12-20 01:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by Allanah555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just appear as yourself. Be confident. if you try to fake your attitude it may work in the short term but he may brake up with you again later when he sees your real character. I'm sure you have a great character and you shouldn't try to hide it.
2007-12-20 01:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill people she probably forgot to put the 4 jeeze!!! well tell him things that he has missed about his daughter and what she has done so far and maybe it will make him wanna be in her (and you) life!
2007-12-20 01:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by ☮Kayareeyees☮ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your stupid! haven't talked in 4 years but you have a year old daughter together!?
2007-12-20 01:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by CHEL8 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not think that it is philosophy you want but relationships
2007-12-20 01:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Freethinking Liberal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋