Why do men find it so hard to show emotions and how they feel, do they think that it makes them look weak?

Question

i have been married for 4 in ahalf years and i have been trying to get my husband to open up and show me more of how he feels... and his thoughts on things but he just wont, why is this? does he possibly think i will think less of him or do men think it'll make them enferior?

Answer 1

We don't think it makes us weak or inferior, we think that anything we tell the women in our lives will be eventually used to hurt us when you women get mad at us...

Answer 2

Don't be too sure it's because he thinks he'll appear weak. Some men are just flat-out not emotional. You might be terrified to find out that a lot of men don't even HAVE many emotions. They suppress them for so long, they don't even identify them. They're not like women. Try to not pester him too much about it. He is what he is. He'll let you in some day, if he can.

Answer 3

I don't think that he it is because he is afraid of what you may think it is just men do not think like we do. There not all into talking and saying how they feel it just is not in most not all but most men genetics for example if you look at guy answers on here there usually short and sweet girls long and lengthy. There are men who do like to talk about stuff but most do not I do not think anyone knows not even them. I really think that they do express there thoughts because they just do not have as many they get to the point and that's it. There is theories out there that psychologist know. Like what parts of the brain we use and they and there genetic predisposition I have learned some of it through nursing school. Its complicated you should look up some stuff on-line about men vs. women .

Answer 4

A woman thinks nothing of telling the man she loves just how she feels about him. Men tell us in their own little ways,lets say your husband takes you out to dinner and drinks doesn't he make sure you have a drink in your hands at all times and doesn't he ask if you are having a good time. When he opens the car door for you or tells you to put your seat belt on, as silly as that may sound those are signs of his love. When he hugs you for no reason or steals a kiss or gives you that half smile that lets you know he wants some afternoon delight. That's his way of telling you how much he loves you. Why do you think it is, if a wife says to her husband(I don't think you love me anymore) he can't believe you just said that or even think that. In his mind he shows you everyday how he feels. Remember men are nothing like us and no matter how hard we try to get them to be like us it just ain't going to happen.

Answer 5

I know that they think that it makes them feel or look weak. The reason is because of their fathers. A man tries to make their sons strong and the way they do this is by not showing their true emotions. So don't blame the man, blame the father.

Answer 6

Not all men are like that. Some women find it hard to show their feelings. It's not about what their gender is, it's about what the person has been through.

Answer 7

Yes, Men are taught that showing emotion is a sign of weakness, and that they should be strong. Men just aren't as in touch with how they feel as women are, they sometimes don't have any idea how to express it....Plus they just don't equate making a connection with sharing emotions. You are interpreting his behavior from your frame of reference (women are emotional) and he just isn't like you. Guys make a bond through shared activities, he feels close to you when you do things together that he enjoys.

Answer 8

I think men behave this way for different reasons. Some I think don't show emotions or talk about their feelings because they just feel that's NOT what men do. Others were raised by a man who didn't show emotions either but taught their son's that being emotional or open about feelings is wrong. My bf to a degree is kind of what your husband is like. It's odd. He will show me and tell me how much he loves me but when it comes to other things like issues in his family that are serious he closes himself up and just tries to handle his own with it and not even talk to me about it. He keeps all his emotions and stress bottled up and won't talk to me. His grandmother passed away this past August and I remember I saw him begin to cry at one point, I tried comforting him and he sucked it back up, pushed me away and told me he was OK. To me that's not good. As for your husband, I think one day just out of the blue you should ask him why he acts like that. You can't force someone to open up to you though, sometimes men are just set in their ways. I am fortunate though that with my bf he is open about his love for me. I can handle the bottled up emotions about his family and all that stress, but not when it comes to him letting me know he loves me.

Good luck to you.

Answer 9

Think they feel it makes them vulnerable; not weak
And men certainly do have the emotions women have; I've seen it come forth when all their barriers have been unlocked.

Answer 10

men are taught at an early age that showing emotion is a sign of weakness. its unfair to them but its an unfortunate reality.

Answer 11

Ok first off, men don't have the emotions that women have. So it can be hard too try and show these emotions that women want you too show, when you don't have them. God designed us that way, we don't think like you. We are men and we have been breed for the ages too hunt and kill and bring food in, the life you enjoy now hasn't been like this for all that long. Ok here is some advice, leave the hubby alone and let him watch the game, call momma or your sister or heck get all the women you know on the party line and just get good and emotional. And please do not expect your man to understand why you are crying, he has no blooming idea.