Do you think this woman (the third party) loves you if?
Assumption:
She is a third person.
She decide it is too messy for a love triangle & decide to end the affair (non-sexual) and suggest you not to contact her a what way and ask you to resolve your marriage problem first.
She said she feel my pain but she feel guilty as her existence is hurting my wife.
2007-12-19 16:05:50 · 12 answers · asked by TT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Third party did seduce me verbally.
My wife is crazy enough to foce me to contact her, then forbid the relationship afterwards.
2007-12-19 16:29:13 · update #1
I do all the $ work, child care, laundry, cooking ...
2007-12-19 16:54:07 · update #2
My wife has mental problem & I would like to help her out before I leave (seeing counselling now & taking medicine). With or without the third party I would like to have a new life. I feel like a single dad & my wife is only obsessed with me (no love but control)
2007-12-19 17:07:42 · update #3
While everyone is ripping on you, and I understand why, I'd like to say I'm glad its non-sexual and that you still realize it as the affair it is. Many men would call it just friends. First you need to look at your marriage and see why you felt the need for this affair. See if there is anything you can save with your wife. If not, just end it. If so, concentrate on that. Do not base your decision for a divorce on if you will have someone to go to afterwords. The two women/relationships need to be view as independent. But yes, she probably does love you and doesn't want the relationship to cross the physical line while you are married b/c she respects marriage. I think if you need to as well. I can understand things just not working with your wife, but you need to fix or end them, not look elsewhere. Good luck.
2007-12-19 16:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by Milo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the "third party" has more of a conscience than the "first party" - you.
She is absolutely correct. BEFORE you embark on another relationship, you should be very sure that you have finished the first one. Not just in your mind, but for real, in the eyes of society and the law. If you are still between the two you are not being fair to either party, and are in effect cheating both. Perhaps she knows that if you could treat one woman that way, then she could be cheated on too. She doesn't want a dirty affair, she wants an open relationship with someone who is free to offer her the same. So choose.
2007-12-19 16:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you really don't know just how much of a slime ball you are. The other woman is wrong for letting you get close to her in the first place but unlike you at least she can see how wrong it would be to get sexually involved with you.Lets just hope she can keep away from you long enough to see what kind of man you really are. You my friend are playing with fire and guess who will get burned ?
2007-12-19 16:23:01 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, she is being very respectful to the wife and the husband is not. Wether there is a marriage problem or not continuing to see this woman is wrong, however there is nothing sexual so it is innocent but still unfair to the wife. She may love the guy but who wants to be a "mistress" answering her boyfriends night calls? I wouldn't like to be in the wifes' shoes and I wouldn't do it to any other woman either, it's just humiliating.
2007-12-19 16:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by Abs 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
She is an honest woman that deserves much better than a guy that cannot FIX his life and doesn't know what he wants.
That cannot offer her a serious relationship... so she did the best thing she could do for herself.
Kudos to her!
Oh by the way... she may love you but she loves and respects herself... that's why she let you go.
2007-12-19 16:10:17 · answer #5 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She could love you.
But she is being wise.
She is basicly telling you to contact her when you are a free man.
She is not wanting to share. Smart lady.
She is also considerate of your wife.
She is abandoning a lose-lose situation for herself .. and she is going forward with her life. She is not your wife .. your wife is your wife .. and she knows this fact.
She may love you .. but she wants more .. and she does not want to be the third unsignificant person.
She's pretty smart.
2007-12-19 16:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Honest caring people don't put you in this situation. She sounds like she's on a power trip and wants to control you. I feel sorry for the wife who's probably home alone taking care of your laundry while you nurture this flirt.
2007-12-19 16:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by movealong 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Listen let me build you on looking at your situation for what it really is..............
No you don't love the (third party) because if you did you would've handled the situation with you wife and been real on trying to make something real with the how did you put it (third party)
Real love don't have what if's!
Either you loved her, wanted her, or you wanted to be with your wife!
So keep it real with her, yourself and your wife!
Either make it work with your wife, or stop wasting your time and the as you put it (third party)!!!!!!!!! Because if you ask me at this point, you don't love her, or your wife, you just selfish and self-centered and love yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck with your lies...................................
2007-12-19 17:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether she loves you or not it sounds like she does not want to be with you while you're married. If you want the chance to find out if she could love you then you have to agree to her terms and end your marriage before attempting anything more with her.
2007-12-19 16:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Suburban Mom 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
some ofthe women in affairs arent strong enough to handle bein the third party and i think she was one of them. it doesnt mean she doesnt love you though. maybe she just wants to be with u when ur single,
2007-12-19 16:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by POSHGIRL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋