I'm 18, first year of college, still living at home. My parents have a rule that I need to wake up at 10 every morning, which I haven't been doing. They are extremely affected by this, and my dad says I'm putting unnecessary strain on the family, and that it's affecting my parents' marriage.
I know it's their house, their rules, and I should follow them. I'm working on that. But is this "strain in the marriage" really my fault? Lots of my friends' parents are getting divorced, so I'm wondering.
2007-12-19 15:54:46 · 10 answers · asked by avacado pie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm on break, so no studies. And I really don't have "studies" anyhow, I go to art school. Thank the Lord God above.
How old are you?
2007-12-19 16:05:35 · update #1
You not waking up at 10 in the morning would be an awfully weak thing to put a marriage in strain about.
The marriage would have to already be weak on other levels for this to affect it.
It could affect it by when your 2 parents are alone together .. one parent could remark that you are not obeying the rule - then the other parent could take-up for you .. then they fight. Also - your parents may not feel like they have control of their own home if you won't do as they ask - and you do not obey the rule which they made. So .. beware ... arguements may be going on behind the scenes, with your parents, which you are unaware of.
Do the right thing ... obey their rule. When you do obey their rule - then you won't have anything to reget .... plus, they can't blame the strain of the family, nor the affect on your parent's marriage .. on you. You will have done your part.
You can fix this by doing as they ask you to do.
Then .. if things are still difficult .. other reasons may be the problem.
2007-12-19 16:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they're arguing, like one of your parents feels that it's no big deal if you get up at 11:00 am and the other thinks that it's intolerable. That would put a strain on the marriage.
I would just work harder to get up at the time that they'd like you to, and then see what happens with their relationship. Maybe you'll see an immediate change in their relationship (hence your wake-up time WAS the only strain), or maybe you won't (so you know that if they do break up, it's not all 100% your fault). Every marriage has strain, and I think they're just trying to tell you that it's not helping them at all. If it's a simple change that you can make, I'd go for it. No one ever said you can't take a nap sometime throughout the day, right? :-)
2007-12-20 00:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are arguing because you aren't following the rules they have set forth. Your direct disobedience is adding to the strain in the marriage. It probably isn't the only factor, but it is a factor.
For starters, get your lazy butt out of bed. If you can afford to stay home and sleep until 10, you aren't putting enough time and energy into your studies. You should be spending your time working to have extra money for school or to prepare to move out on your own.
You want to have the priviledges of an adult, like waking up when you want to, but none of the responsibility. Get a job, spend more time studying, and get out of bed at a decent hour.
2007-12-20 00:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by Meghan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that whatever problems they had or have. Don't have anything to do with you. Now you not following their rules dose cause conflict with in the family I am sure. Do you sleep past 10 or are you getting up before 10? I mean that is a really little thing to be to upset at. Maybe you should think of getting a part time job and finding a couple of room mates....
2007-12-20 00:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Their marital problems are not cause by what time you get out of bed. They are being ridiculous. I could see making you get up if you did nothing with your life but that is not the case. I cannot believe that they told you this. You cannot fix their marriage.
2007-12-20 00:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just too weird. Parents shouldn't blame their marriage problems on your sleeping late. Lock the door.
2007-12-19 23:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, take it upon yourself to do so (wake up by 10) and be responsible for yourself
2007-12-20 00:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"honor thy father and mother" - The Bible
Go to bed earlier so you will want to be up by 10 am.
Joy to you!
2007-12-20 00:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd mess with the clocks and throw everyone off.
2007-12-19 23:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
id say ... why is how late u sleep affecting them .... unless u depend on them to get places ...? who knows
2007-12-20 00:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by staceydv4 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋