Ok, I like my bff's dad a lot more than my dad. We actually talk a lot more and I hug him all the time. I still respect my dad but he (my dad) barely talks to me and when he does it's really awkward, or he is yelling at me. Help?
2007-12-19 15:52:25 · 8 answers · asked by Carey 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
it sounds like you feel guilty about having a good relationship with your friends dad. i think its great that you are able to have that relationship in addition to your real father. it also sounds like you and your dad dont have the most effective way of communicating. have you tried telling him how you feel? i've never really had a very good relationship with my dad but it helped when i at least told him how i was feeling about everything. i think is perfectly fine to build other relationships in life to find what you need.
2007-12-19 16:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by lalie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most dad's have a VERY hard time adjusting to their daughters growing up. They want the think that they will be their little girls forever. When they start becoming teens, dads become unconfortable realizing their daughters are going to sooner or later start having sex or even just thoughts of sex or dating. Some dads are better at handling that than others. Some dads can better see their daughters friends like that b/c they didn't change their diapers. Your dad is probably just withdrawling from you b/c your hitting an unconfortable age for him. I'm not saying its right, I'm not saying that you should feel bad to be closer to someone else's dad, just trying to explain how he probably feels and why he's acting how he is. Unfortunately, I don't know if talking to him about it will help or make him more unconfortable. You might just have to wait it out. Or he might have always been like that and he's just not good at communicating with you. I'm sure he loves you though.
2007-12-20 00:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by Milo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly fine, normal and good! Alot of times during the times in your lif eyou will not get along with your parents. They (Dads exspecially) seem to have a harder time staying connected to their teenage daughters, it is a awkword time for both of you. You used to be his little girl and now you are not only becomeing another adult in the house but a women!
I think it is great that you have found a posative male to have in your life that is willing to fill that father role. Dont give up on your dad though. Unless he is a complete *** (which it doesn;t sound like). maybe try to conect with your dad in ways you used to enjoy to gether like shooting hoops or going fishing. Just so you done replace him and he doens't feel replaced.
2007-12-20 00:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel that way since your boyfriends dad is nice to you. Keep in mind though that he is not your parent so doesn't have the same type of relationship with you as your dad does...your dad sees a different side of you in all likelihood than your boyfriends dad does so it is easier for him to be more of a friend to you than your dad.
2007-12-20 00:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not bad to be more comfortable with your friends dad. Why is it awkward to talk to your dad?
2007-12-20 00:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that. At least now you have a real father-figure. Parents are weird like that, and they're all different.
2007-12-19 23:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by Pretty Maggie Money Eyes 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's not bad. you need someone that you can talk to for advice or something without them yelling at you.
2007-12-20 01:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with that be glad you have a father-figure because most kids dont
2007-12-23 15:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by *Love.Angel.Music.Baby* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋