So there is this couple that I interact with weekly. At first, I only knew the husband. Later on, the wife started attending the meetings too. I use to always sit next to the husband, but if I come to the meetings late, I usually sit else where. (not on purpose, I just usally sit at the spot that is the closest and the most convenient. Anyhow he has made little snide comments about how I don't sit next to him (which really just annoyed me, and made me really go out of my way to avoid him- who does he think he is talking to me like that?), and now the wife is always giving me the eye or looking me over when I talk to her husband. The whole reason that I stay away from married men in the first place is b/c I don't want drama, or their wives to be jealous. So, what is their deal. I left the guy alone and now he is like acting all childlike, and she is always watching me when I talk to him. did I do anything wrong? Why does he care where I sit anyway?
2007-12-19 15:49:16 · 7 answers · asked by breezy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to set the record straight. I have never cheated on anyone and don't drink or do drugs. They are volunteer meetings. My dad always flirted with other women in front of my mom. It drove both of us crazy. I know what that can do to a couple== that is why I avoid married men. Some are nice, but I don't want to be that distraction.
2007-12-19 16:39:53 · update #1
to set the record straight. I have never cheated on anyone and don't drink or do drugs. They are volunteer meetings. My dad always flirted with other women in front of my mom. It drove both of us crazy. I know what that can do to a couple== that is why I avoid married men. Some are nice, but I don't want to be that distraction.
2007-12-19 16:39:54 · update #2
No one knows but him - why he cares where you sit.
Stay away from them.
You need lots of absent time away from both of them.
You don't know what may have happen priorly in this marriage. Maybe .. this husband has had roaming eyes before & his wife knows it ... and .. the wife may be recognizing him doing this with you - so she is watching.
Stay away from them.
I don't know what kind of meetings you are going to where they are at - but if you can - miss the meetings for awhile to break the link with them.
Always, always - sit away from them. Avoid them. Don't talk to them. Don't look at them Ignore his comments. Just plain & simple stay away - have no relations at all ... none at all.
2007-12-19 15:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by Tara 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I remember you and always had the highest regard for you. You continue to validate the confidence and trust that I repose in you. As to your current situation, I sense two issues that are linked.1) when you initially sat by this guy and his wife, I suspect he started to have ideas about the two of you , maybe thinking that he could get something romantic going, but then before he could make his move, fate stepped in when quite innocently you sat somewhere else.2) He took this innocent act to mean that you were giving him a cold shoulder and got upset .I suspect he then decided to tell his wife that you were hitting on him raising her ire.That explains why his wife started to give you the evil eye; because she thinks or believes that you were after her husband.While I can understand your consternation, I do not think you should fault the wife as I feel he is just trying to create a difficult situation for you. You are strong enough to continue your volunteer work and still ignore both of them.If he wants to talk to you, make sure his wife is present and is a party to everything said.To the extent that you can, follow this way. Until and unless you are confronted by either one of them in a hostile manner, do not sit next to him again, and only talk to him on issues to do with the work as volunteers,and nothing personal. You will survive this problem as you have others. Just enjoy your holidays with your family.
2007-12-20 09:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you used to always sit next to him anyway? Seems like you started something and now it's backfired on you, I was married to a woman like you. I bet you have also cheated in your relationships as well... Drug or Alcohol abuse class most likely, right? Your getting what you deserve.
2007-12-19 16:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by AzNative89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what your doing and stay away from the situation as much as possible. If the man keeps talking to you, completely avoid eye contact and don't say a word. If he keeps at it, yell "I don't even know you leave me alone go bug your wife!"
2007-12-19 15:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by sun day 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is using you to make her jealous in hope of a better sex experience. Stay far far away from them both. They are total freaks.
2007-12-19 16:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you to evaluate this type of behaviour. Why do you find this is the only couple in this world to have company with?
2007-12-19 16:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore it
2007-12-19 15:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋