Would you marry someone 25 years older than you!?!!?!?

Question

what's the limit for you?

25 years too much?
(Catherine-Zeta Jonas and her husband are 25 years apart in age difference)
Some people think its disgusting....some don't

Is it alright if its TRUE love?

Answer 1

nooooooooooooooooo!

Answer 2

I think it all depends on what age you are. I'm 36, so to marry a guy 25 years older than me would be 61. It would all depend on who I was at 36 and who the guy was at 61. There are 61-year-olds who are very content to sit in front of the TV and doze off...just as there are some 36-year-olds who are content to do the exact same! Then again, there are active 61-year-olds as well. I think I would do well with a semi-active 61-year-old at this point in my lilfe because I'm a little bit more ready to settle down. I like to have a good time, but it's just not the same as it used to be in my 20s.

But if I was 25 and looking to get with a 50-year-old, then I think that might be totally different. Because when you're 25, you're still sort of expecting for life to be fun and adventerous. At my age, I think I'm okay with being more settled. Therefore, I don't think it would be disgusting for me to do something like that.

Answer 3

It depends on whether or not this person is truly worth your time or if you are going to find out later that you are just a trophy wife so that he could brag to his buddies.

Also, are you over 18? Have your parents found out? Secrecy isn't the best way to go about getting married--I know that a lot of people do it, but really, you'll want support from your family when the babies come, so you don't want to alienate them by marrying a guy that is someone they knew nothing about. Make sure you put yourself in their shoes before making the decision of secrecy.

Also, is your (I'm going to assume he's a fiancee) fiancee going to be able to support you after his death? Because there is a VERY good chance he's going to die before you--will he leave you with nothing, with debt, or well off? Are you going to be able to handle him getting old and gray while you are still young?

How well do you really know this man? Have you met and spent time with all of his friends and family? Has he done the same with you? If either of you are embarassed about the other, it's not going to work.

I'm sorry if I offended you, but marriage is hard work. My husband and I are going on three years now, and it can get tedious--but it's also a great thing, having that kind of support and continual love is a wondrous thing. I just don't want you to get into something you will regret later, and wanted to make sure you had thought this all the way through before you took an irreversible step.

If this is truly what you want to do after you read and answered all of the above questions (and any I might have missed) then best of luck to you! It'll take a strong bond to make it work--but if you know you can do it and love him, it'll seem like a piece of cake. :) Good luck!

Answer 4

I think it depends completely on the people involved. If it is true love and they are willing to accept the problems that come with it (different interests, different social circles, dying first, other people's opinions) and neither of them is younger than mid twenties at least, then it is fine. But there will always be those who have different opinions and will look down on them and say she just married him for his money, or vice versa.

Me, personally, I don't know. Maybe it's because I'm only 19, and would have a lot of trouble looking at a 44 year old as a significant other rather than a parent figure or mentor. It would take a long time for me to be willing to enter a relationship like that in the first place, and longer to think about marriage. Then again, the fact that I'm already engaged to someone only a year older than me makes it hard for me to imagine that as well.

Answer 5

There is no way in Heck that people born 25 years apart can be truly in love. Men want to bang young chicks to feel young again and father children (they probably messed up big time the first time around) and women want to marry an older man because she has daddy issues/ is looking for deep pockets or wants to get out of a 3rd world country. It may be legal but it is not "right".

Answer 6

I personally wouldn't marry someone that much older than me...what would we have in common?? Seems like far too much of a gap. Catherine Zeta Jones is something like 34 and her hsuband is what 60 something?? It would be like being with your father and the older they get the more tired they will be while you are still in the prime of your life.

Answer 7

25 years is too much. The limit should be 10 years.

Answer 8

25 is a little much. But if you love the guy/girl, go for it. It might not be right if you want kids though, more than likely a person 25 years old won't.

Answer 9

Who cares what others think, if you are 25 years apart in age from your true love go for it as long as both are older than 18.

Answer 10

it all depends on a lot of things. financial, the real age of both parties and what your parents think. if u are 25 and he is 50 it would still be acceptable. but if you are like 45 and he is75, it would be a bit weird getting married to someone who might not be fit to be a husband anymore unless he is a multi millionaire.

personally i think it all depends. but so far i've got 2 friends aged 34 who are going out with guys twice their age and they are liking it, financially.

Answer 11

I think it takes about 25 years more for a man to mature enough to be with a woman by the time she's ready for marriage.

Remember: fathers are no longer marrying off their 14 year old female children. Women are allowed to go to college. Women are allowed to work for a living wage. etc....

When you are in love, you can't see age, you can't see wrinkles, you can't see money (seriously, you could be dirt poor, but look into the eyes of your loving man and be in the eternity of heaven with devotion to him to match!)