I got a gift certificate to Red Robins for Christmas and have thought about asking this guy I like to have lunch with me sometime over break. I've already been to his house for dinner a few times and his mom wants to meet my mom, so they could chaperone us. We are both 8th graders. Do you guys think we're too young to go out together somewhere though? Although I do like him I think having a friendship with him is more important for now especially since we're pretty young and there's more time to get to know each other in high school anyway.
2007-12-19 15:19:41 · 11 answers · asked by moon_walker 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sounds like a great idea to me.
Your mom and his mom can go to a separate table, and you guys can spend some time together. Gives you a chance to test the waters if you want to, without risking anything.
You've got good instincts; trust them.
The main thing to remember -and this gets tough later on- is that you're learning dating habits now that are going to affect the rest of your life. You're learning how to deal with guys; that's pretty big.
People will say, "Oh, just don't kiss a guy because of peer pressure," or, "It's just peer pressure, don't give in." Much easier said than done. The best way to make sure you don't do anything stupid in high school is to do your best to remain aloof from the dating scene. Do sports and clubs; those will increase your confidence -vital for teenagers- and make you less likely to turn to dating for security. The worst mistake you can make is trying to define yourself through another person.
Try to avoid looking for boyfriends later on. Be friends before you try for a relationship; you can't lose that way.
Sorry for the sermon, I've just seen a lot of kids go astray and figure I can at least help people reading this question.
2007-12-19 15:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be thinking this responsibly at your age is almost unheard of! Good for you! I think it would be fine to go out with your parents, as long as they agree. You do have much more time to get to know him and there is no reason to take things too fast, you're right. But lunch with the parents seems like its a good, slow start. Plus by getting to know eachother's family, you are much less likely to do something impulsive (ie teen sex) later on. Stay friends, take it slow, and keep that good head you have. I hope my daughter ends up like you.
2007-12-19 23:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by Milo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a nice idea if you two are friends then why not ask him to have lunch with you. If you think your mom and his mom would prefer to be there by all means invite them along so they can meet. There is nothing wrong with being friends with a boy and you sound pretty level headed.
2007-12-19 23:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him. It would be a perfect time for your mothers to meet. You are not too young for this and your mothers will be there anyway. There is nothing trashy about asking out a boy like the one person answered.
2007-12-20 00:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you have a good head on your shoulders and you know what is right for you but in my opinion it is just fine for yall to go out... the summer of my 8th grade is when i started going out with guys on my own... and my mom and dad approved... it should be fine
2007-12-19 23:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by Bubblez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww I think it's really sweet. Just make sure you take things slow and get to know him first before you decide to date him or whatever you kids call it now-I'm a little older so I wouldn't know :).
2007-12-19 23:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhh, sounds so sweet and thoughtful. Yes you should but be careful and take things slowly.All the best
2007-12-19 23:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by Cynthia k 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what???? you must be prude! i am in 7th grade and WAS going out with a 6th grader and we went on a movie date by ourselfs!!! and made out! you are sounding really wimpy right now
2007-12-19 23:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by uuummmm 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you are too young for all that stuff, and even if you were in high school, asking him is pretty forward.
2007-12-19 23:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋
You sound smart! Just be his friend!
2007-12-20 00:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by get your kicks on route 66 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋