have your husband told you that you needed to lose some extra weight? like more than 10 pounds? what do you think of a husband that does this? want your honest opinion, men and women. thanks.
2007-12-19 15:08:46 · 42 answers · asked by k.c. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm a good 50 lbs over weight and my boyfriend makes me feel sexier than anyone has ever made me feel. If I want to lose weight he encourages me but he would NEVER say anything like that. I think anyone who really loves you loves you no matter what. They accept you for who you are. I think it is one thing to try to encourage you to make healthy eating choices. We try to cook/eat healthy together but it has nothing to do with weight. We want to be healthier to live longer together. To come out and say you need to lose weight is pretty harsh. I think that you should be the judge of when you need to lose weight. No one can make you want to do those things. He shouldn't feel like he has the right to say that or the control over you to make you do what he wants.
That is just my opinion.
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2016-05-22 07:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because I am in pretty good shape.
However, I think if I was overweight I would rather have him suggest to me that we go work out together rather then saying I'm fat and need to lose weight. Working out together creates bonding while losing weight.. which makes it a hell of a lot better.
2007-12-19 15:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well its better that he tells you that than if he went out and cheated with a thin woman. I know a boy that had a girl once and he dumped her because she was fat and he didn't want to ask her to lose weight because he didn't want to hurt her feelings. If he would've just spoke up, she might have gotten mad, but maybe they would have worked it out.
Tons of men can be insensitive they don't see telling a woman to lose weight the way women see it, really.
They see it as a fact and they don't think about hurting anyones feelings.
2007-12-19 15:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by fYi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if its just 10 pounds, then I feel that is a bit rude, is he perfect??? or even 20. But if it gets to the point where it is unhealthy then I think he is just concerned for you and he loves you wants to have a very long life with you and he is worried he won't if you gain too much weight. But I mean really if that isn't the case... and he is just worried about the fact that you don't look good on his arm anymore, tell him to look in the mirror. Geesh! We all put on a little bit of weight when we age, unless we are Cher.
2007-12-19 15:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband has never told me to do that .. and I am so thankful.
I know lots of women whose husbands tell them to lose weight all of the time.
What I think is so ironic .. is that many men need to do the same thing (lose weight) .. but they don't lose the weight - they just harp on their wife to do it.
I think a husband should consider their wife's feelings before they tell their wife to do this. AND .. I definetly think the husband needs to check himself out, before he says one word to his wife.
2007-12-19 15:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in fact my husband hinted tonight that I need to lose some weight!
Let me tell you: it's none of his business! My weight problem is my problem! If he doesn't love me the way I am, too bad. I don't care!! Nagging never helped anyone. Tell that husband of yours to mind his own business too! I did!
2007-12-19 15:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by eshjane 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he said I needed to lose weight because he was concerned about my weight because of the health effects, that'd be one thing.
If he said I needed to lose weight because he didn't find me appealing, that'd be another.
2007-12-19 15:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if it is a health issue. I KNOW I need to lose weight...but there is a difference than, "wow you are so fat! " and Honey, I think we need to talk about your health. Also , either way, they should love you no matter what you look like!
2007-12-19 15:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by carrie dakota 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I moved out of the bedroom because he said I was fat haivng just given birth to a 10lb baby. I lost the weight but never moved back in..divorced two years later.
2007-12-19 17:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋