I'm feeling really blue please help?

Question

I always believed that when true love came into my life I was going to know. How? Simply by looking into that person’s eyes and feeling that tingly feeling in your stomach or simply by noticing that when you see that person nothing else matters. My whole life I lived with the idea that someday I would feel that way for somebody that someday I would have the urge to love someone and give them all of my heart. I went through middle school, high school thinking that by the time I graduated I would have at least found one person that would have swept me away and made me feel all that for him. Unfortunately, I am now in college and now that I have found someone who means everything to me, someone who makes my life so much more better and makes me feel butterflys just by thinking when I will see him again, is the person who doesn’t show me that he loves me, is the person that although he tells me that he loves me never seems to have enough time for me, is the person that makes me feel like

I am making a mistake just by still being with him. Sometimes I wish I wouldn’t be able to feel what I feel for him because it causes me so much pain and even though I want to forget him it feels like everyday I love him more and more. I ask myself How? How do I forget him? How do I leave this relationship behind me and go on to find someone who really cares for me and is there for me? God, how I wish it were soo easy as just flipping a page! I know many people must judge me as an idiot by being in this relationship. I know many people will read this and say just move on with your life or hes not the only guy around but only the people who have gone through the same situation will know how truly hard it is. So I ask you guys how do I move on how do I end this relationtionship or how do I make it work?

Answer 1

while you are home crying...
he is out laughing and dancing.
move on.

Answer 2

Actually, I had the same problem. I had this guy who I thought I loved because I got the butterflies and all that, but really, it's not ALL about the way he makes you feel tingly inside.
It is also the way he treats you and what he can provide for you and what you guys can achieve together.
The guy I was with made me feel good, but he was a loser and so therefore no matter how happy and 'in love' I thought I was, there was a different word for it. It's like infatuation...
I never thought i could, but I actually broke it off. He was upset and he promised to get better and spend more time with me and show that he cared, but it didn't get better and it was just harder to break it off.
If you truly think that you're not happy with the way things are going, don't draw it out. Relationships are about so much more than the 'sweep you off your feet feeling.'
You have to be realistic, too. And if he doesn't spend time and show his love, it just isn't worth it to feel blue.
You should just tell him that although you care about him, you feel like the relationship isn't going anywhere. And then be strong. I met a great guy a few months later when I wasn't looking for him...I was single and happy. He not only gives me a special feeling, but he holds up his end by spending lots of time with me and showing his love everyday. A year later we are engaged. It may be hard but you will be able to move on and life will go on.

Answer 3

You've built this dream up for a lonngggg time and when you finally think it's come true, you find out a sad truth that many before you encountered. The reality is that you have to go through a few lumps of coal to find the diamond.

Ok so this guy's not the one, you did your part and felt the butterflies but he did not reciprocate. It's ok, this is one experience, one time and there are plenty more. You know what you want and what you expect and should not settle for less. This guy doesn't want what you have to offer? Find someone else to offer it to who does appreciate it.

You sound like a bright, caring individual who is sure to find someone some day. It would be nice if life was like a movie script or book with the perfect story, perfect ending but it's not. Now stop wasting time with this loser and look yourself in the mirror and know you have a lot to offer someone who appreciates it. It's not the end of the world, even if it feels like it. It just took you until College to find it out.

If you think you won't feel butterflies again, think again, you will :). That's the great part! Dont' this discourage you as it's normal part of growing up and experiences with dating.

How do you end it? Like many girls have told me a variation of in the past " I think it's time we just are friends, I wanted to feel something and it's just happenign for me and you deserve that from a girl who can give you that. I'm sorry but this is best". There may be some uncomfortable conversation after it but after a while it's over and you can grieve a little and move on.

In order to find that special one you're going to have to be strong in future relationships and have the courage to walk away of necessary, be in control and not let emotions control you.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Well...no one ever said that love was easy...and you can't force someone to love you. You started out as most women do looking for romance, which is what every woman wants when she falls in love. And in finding someone, it should not be a one-way thing. You had lots of notice that this person was not responding the way you wanted....long before you go serious about him. That should have been your "stop, look, and listen" warning....but it sounds like you plowed ahead...however you did that...and nothing has really changed. You are wanting from this person what you will never have...and you need to see that clearly, stop hoping for what he can't give, and make a decision that is good for you and your future.

If he tells you he loves you.....you don't seem to think he means it...so are they just empty words...or are you looking for "romance" as well as love. You have to know the difference.

Can you move on and live without this guy? If not, then you are going to have to mature a little and realize what you have is maybe worth more than you think.

Men often use romance, until they are secure in the relationship...then they think "why do I need it?...and they don't...but women want it in the worst way! If he wants to please you, he might be willing to try....he obviously isn't getting the message. But be careful you don't throw away what is really love.....it just may not be romance!

Answer 5

Well hun love is a very particular thing- as we all know. no matter what as humans we all have hardships, and we all have friends who are angels sent to help us. I am on the same path and I can tell you that I do understand, I see the generations these days as the most lonely and I wish for it all to be over filled with love! This guy you speak of you already can see is trully not dedicated, yet should this not be a sign of whats to come? You found aboy who you are Deeeply! In love with he has his mistakes and you need to get over your feelings. Imagine how you can feel with a little more patience and a whole lotta hope; if this one boy makes you feel the way you do and you know hes not what you need imagine the boy who is. Basically a man who is supportive, lokving, kind, and a man who not only fills your heart with joy but fills those little blanks youre missing right now. Imagine a life of your dreams! If this boy who you are gives you such strong feelings what about the one thats trully to come! You are very young yet and have great ambition that I can see beyond the question. You got it and you have nothing to fear! This will pay off hun.

Answer 6

In any relationship you have to examine your feelings and decide if what is happening is right for you. Sometimes relationships just don't give you what you need. You say he loves you but doesn't have enough time for you...examine this and decide if you are being reasonable in your demands on his time. If it is the first time you have been involved you may be "needy" and expect too much. If you determine that he is neglectful then you will have to make a decision to discuss it with him, or leave. No one is going to tell you it is easy to stop caring for someone. But almost everyone has been in a destructive or unsatisfying relationship that wasn't serving their needs, and had to make a choice. Personally if I wasn't getting what I needed, there would be only one choice.

Answer 7

If your not happy move on a.s.a.p!!!! By staying unhappy your making things worst. For some reason people tend to stay in bad relationships, perhaps you have faith or hope he might change. If you have no faith or hope there is no solution.

If you want to end it there are many ways.You can end it slowly by drifting away. You can end it fast by leaving and cutting him out of your life. or you can make him leave you by doing things he doesn't like. Or you can just tell him you guys aren't working out.

I say leave for a while see what happens. If he waits for you he loves you if he moves on then you'll know he wasn't the one. Test him.

Answer 8

in all reality this happends to almost every girl. and ive had it happen to me. its really hard to feel this way about someone and no that it just might not work. and if you do leave him its not going to get easier i know you will cry cry cry. and im not telling you to move on but i promise you it will get better and you will find someone. or you guys just might make it work. my boyfriend is just starting med school and im used to seeing him all the time and now with his studies and classes i wont be able to see him as much. but then agian when you do get to see him you will love it and youll always look forward to it. everyone needs something to look forward to. my suggestion is tell him how you feel and talk to him and see where this is going. and keep your girlfriends real close no matter if you stay with him or not. becuase you will always need them:)

Answer 9

Well if you really feel he is the one then address this issue to him..talk to him about it. If he doesn't care or try to pay more attnetion to you then he is not worth you. If this happens then you guys were probably never meant to be. Believe me you will find that special someone.

Answer 10

the only way you can make it work is if he is willing to also. sit him down and telling him exactly what your telling us. let him kno ur feelings. that is the best way to make a relationship last by being open.

Answer 11

you are feeling blue on your own free judgment;you are having all these mixed signals but you don't want to move on;so on that note you are your own worse enemy