i have been with my partner for nearly five years. he previously worked nights while i worked days so we didn't get to spend a whole lot of time together. he has never had a solid job and he is now struggling to get enough work, but he dosn't go out looking for it either. i think i got really used to having a lot more time to myself and now he's home all the time it's driving me mad. i've been thinking about ending our relationship, but i really dont want to hurt him and i am scared that i would be making a mistake. i know he loves me and i do care for him deeply - but the spark is gone. any advise would be greatly appreciated.
2007-12-19 14:28:34 · 6 answers · asked by ktren 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We all fear change, and for some people it's harder to make a decision or to actually implement one.
Sounds like you know you'd like to separate for a while and see how you both feel; but you are scared of making a mistake and losing him.
All I can say is this: only you know how you truly feel, and if you fear that he will continue to be like he is now, then you know you should call it quits. It's tough to end a relationship; but sometimes it's better to cut your losses to avoid wasting more time- time you will never regain or get back.
Good luck...Think about what you want from life, and go for it. Happiness is a choice, and you are the only one responsible for making the right decisions for yourself. You have one life to live- yours. And if other people hinder instead of help, then cut them loose. (I don't mean to be rude; but life has taught me that we can't always be nice... Life is not fair.)
2007-12-19 14:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a brief separation can do wonders. He just need a wake up call. If you two care for each other somehow the spark will come back. But often times we need to step back for a few. Just kinda outside looking in. Then you both might realize all you needed was time to reflect and a new beginning. good luck to you both.
2007-12-19 22:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one - b.c I know what you mean on this. But really your job in life is to seek your highest happiness. Can he help you get it? Does he want to help you get it? If he has no intent to do that and its not part of his perspective than move on. And I know it is hard when you live together but I think you have to do it. I am in the same boat - trying to find the right time.
2007-12-19 22:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by BoogyBoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it.. or maybe find yourself a hobby you can get into together or by yourselves. it can be a real change. i understand.. my hubby just retired omg sometimes i could just go nuts lol.. but i like doing other things some at home some out and about.. and so does he so that has helped us from going nuts.. good luck
2007-12-19 22:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evidently you aren't married with children, so even if you are living together, if the romance is gone and things have changed irrevocably for you, move on.
2007-12-19 22:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not married, lose him before he causes you anymore grief.
2007-12-19 22:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by Vengance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋