Have you ever felt something for a coworker? Something that fasinates you...but you don't want to mess up any friendship? I feel traped. My mind is telling me go..but im married! When we drink i try to get close...but I also look at my ring..and back off?? what to do?? please help.
2007-12-19 13:43:46 · 6 answers · asked by biglilone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're entering dangerous territory here. It's easy to have a crush on someone you see on a daily basis like you do your friend at work. It's very normal. But once you cross that line, there's no going back. I think that people tend to act too much on their initial emotions, not thinking about the consequences. That too is very normal. But you have to push that aside because you can ruin a LOT in your life. Your marriage, your friendship, your job. All can be gone in a flash. Is it really worth it?
Alcohol makes everyone brave, so you're probably going to keep on trying to get closer to her whenever you go out drinking. However, unless you're really ready to change your life, I wouldn't take the bait. If this other woman is single, then how do you know that she won't tell your wife one day? How do you know if she might want a more serious relationship than you're willing to give her? How do you know if your wife won't take the kids (assuming that you have kids) and run in the other direction?
There's too much at stake here, my friend, so I would just do the best you can to keep away from this girl. Still lust after her, sure. Hang out with her, have fun, but keep the alcohol away from both of you.
2007-12-19 18:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're turned on whenever you're with the coworker, you could, you know. Find relief by yourself or with your wife. If you really love the coworker, ask yourself; Who do you love more?
If it's your spouse, you had better practice self - control.
If it's the coworker, you had better leave your spouse before this becomes a real mess.
If all fails, try couple counseling. Oh, and if you have kids, shame on you.
2007-12-19 14:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by leyenda_asturias 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop drinking with the coworker. You know that you are married and that you should not do anything so don't. Avoid being alone with them.
2007-12-19 13:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back off, you are married. If you really want to get into something else you need to leave your spouse first.
2007-12-19 13:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by grneyes8621 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made a commitment. One that if is broken can hurt another... that another is your wife and all the family, friends, mutual acquaintances will think you're an ***.
Keep your zipper up.
2007-12-19 13:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by ItalianScientist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just back off! Affairs rarely work.
2007-12-19 13:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋