they are both referenced to as "love", but what is the difference in these two forms?
how are they different and similar you think?
2007-12-19 13:02:05 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes, but it is a sympathy love, or a love from weakness, and they never last
2007-12-19 13:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically there are two types of people and two types of romantic love (although type two has a variation for most types of platonic relationships also. You see it often with mothers toward their children.)
Love type one: Eros love ----IN LOVE (the love that fades)
- This is what they are talking about when you read about the love chemical. It has a huge effect on this stage of love. This is the love Jack and Rose had for each other in Titanic. You feel it in the beginning of a relationship. You are completely obsessed with the other person. Passion and fire is rampant. You rarely think of other things. You tell people you are in love. They can do no wrong in your eyes. It is exciting. You feel completely desired, wanted, and worthwhile. This love has an expiration date. It wears off. You start to see their flaws. It gets old. I've heard this can last up to about three years. Some people let the "love" go, saying it has become boring and they don't feel the same way. Often this is for the best, but sometimes they let go because of immaturity and look for the next best thing, the next high. This first stage of love has to happen to get to the next one. I'm sort of glad it expires, because you wouldn't be very productive or balanced if you were completely obsessed with a person forever.
Love type two: Agape love (agape is an old greek word for "love feast" and I've often heard it adopted in this culture to describe this second type of love)
You can have this for someone you feel sorry for, but it's unlikely to be romantic unless there was some form of the first stage.
- If you are lucky, you go into this second stage. This is commitment love. It is characterised by unconditional positive regard, patience, and self-sacrifice. There are ups and downs, but you stick with it bc you realize that real love isn't a feeling, it's actions, loyalty, and grace. This takes maturity and you generally have to have developed a real friendship with the person that will whether the ebb and flow of emotions. Sometimes the fire re-surfaces on special occasions, but it's not as all-consuming or long-lasting and brainless as eros was. This is what the 80 year olds celebrating their 60th anniversary have. This love protects the other's heart and shows love with actions even when they don't FEEL love for the other. Obviously, it seems like this is rare, and it is pretty rare. It requires unselfishness and for people to lay down their pride from time to time. That also takes intelligence. But it happens. They may not always be perfect to each other, but by and large, they go the distance because the majority of the time spent together is this kind of eternal love. You just have to realize that in real life, it's not the fantasy people represent it to be. It's work, it's family. It's not everlasting eros. There is more of a choice, and I think this means more. If it's easy to love and treat you right, you should expect it. If it's a constant effort that reaps sweet rewards, it means a lot.
Love is patient, Love is kind,
It does not envy, it does not boast,
It is not proud, It is not rude,
It is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil,
but rejoices with the truth.
Love always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.
Love bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.
L o v e N e v e r F a i l s.
Two types of people: people capable of agape, and people who aren't.
2007-12-19 13:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Eric Cartman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People will genuinely fall 'in love' with a person that they can most likely relate to on an emotional level. Feeling sorry for a person is generally the same thing as caring about what that person is going through and only enhances the fact that you are in love with someone.... However the confusing part is that 'feeling sorry' for someone may only cause you to be temporarily in love with that person until you know longer have anything to feel sorry for them about. If that person was not going through what they are going through right now to make you feel sorry for them.... would you still love that person? Answer that to get the real answer.
2007-12-19 13:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-04 02:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are similar because if a sort of feeling for that someone and it takes to love to feel sorry for someone
2007-12-19 13:05:26 · answer #5 · answered by Mz Tweety Babii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how they can get tangled up. I've felt sorry for a really depressed guy and talked to him on the phone a lot, then he asked me out. I didn't wanna believe it but I had actually grown to "love" him in a way. I cared a lot about him and worried about him. He was really gross so we went out for 3 days and then I stopped talking to him. That's a tough one.
2007-12-19 13:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by Pretty Maggie Money Eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For your first answer, anything is possible but I think it's a dim possibility. For your second, being in love is only caring for your soulmate or sweetheart, someone you'd do anything for. As for love, it could be anybody, like your family; relatives; friends, or even pets.
2007-12-19 13:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by Green Phantom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Empathy and sympathy do not constitute love! Howvever you can still be in love with that same person so long as you seperate both emotions.
2007-12-19 13:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by IAN B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely in a blurry area. If they didn't have whatever it was that was making you pity them, would you still love them? And chances are if someone is questioning their love, they aren't really IN love although they could still love them like family.
2007-12-19 13:08:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
feeling sorry for someone is more like pity.
being in love with someone is very different from loving someone.
2007-12-19 13:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by Solicia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋