Baby number 3, is it tacky to have a baby shower?

Question

I am pregnant with my third baby but it's my fiancee's first child. Him and his mother want to throw me a baby shower, but I feel like it would be a bit tacky since this is my third baby! I have never had a baby shower personally and as a well seasoned mom I know that you don't NEED everything that the magazines tell you, you need! Help

Answer 1

Since it's your fiancee's first, go for it and especially since you have never really had a baby shower you need to have one. It's fun. I know people who have had baby showers with all their kids. I'm 22 weeks pregnant with #2 and plan on having a shower with this one. Good luck!

Answer 2

I guess it depends on if you already have everything you need for a baby or not. If you do, then you really don't need a baby shower but you could have a diaper shower instead because you know you'll need lots of those!

On it being tacky, well since it is your fiance's first child and he and his mother want you to have one, then I guess I would say it was ok. But if it was you wanting it, then I might say it would tacky if you already had everything you needed for a baby. I do know of people who get rid of everything after each child and buy or have a shower and ask for all new everything for the next and I do that that is very tacky!

Answer 3

If you have people that want to throw you a baby shower, then I don't see any problem with it. Asking for a baby shower would be tacky. Or if you had baby stuff and just wanted more. But in cases of children somewhat far apart, or having a 2nd baby of a different sex, or financial hardship, I think that it is a good thing. In the end it boils down to if there is people willing to throw you one, then go for it! It might be considered rude to decline.

Answer 4

It's not tacky at all. No matter how many children you've had you can never recycle everything from the previous children. If you don't want to recieve certain things ask them to throw you a specific kind of shower. I know several people who have had diaper showers where people only brought diapers. Since you can never have enough of these it can be ideal. If you wanted you could still have other people assist in buying you clothes as well. If they plan on making their own invites they could put something in there along the lines of:

You are invited to a baby clothes and diaper shower!

(Insert name here) already has most everything she needs, but could use your help with diapers and clothes for her new little (insert sex here)

With as many expenses that come with having a baby its always nice to get a little extra help. Most women love going to baby showers so it would be fun for them to go to yours. Good luck and congrats!

Answer 5

Good lord, woman, i would have died for a second baby shower! My first shower was for my son, who was five when I gave birth to my twin girls. My husband's mother, however, refused to even hear the word 'shower' because she'd already had one for me, and "one is enough. Don't be greedy."

She completely ignored the fact that it was TWINS of the OPPOSITE SEX, and it was FIVE YEARS LATER!!! Onesies, yeah, it doesn't matter, but I couldn't exactly put them in little suits for their first Christmas pictures. Besides, I had already given most of my stuff away to my SIL, who had a boy and no job.

So, what I'm trying to say is, don't feel guilty if she's offering. If you have a crib and a carseat, don't register for those things. Get a new Diaper Genie, some refills, and some cute clothes. People will buy you what they want, anyway.

Answer 6

No, it's not tacky to have a baby shower for your third baby. Even though you have other kids their is still some stuff you can use , stuff you may want.

Answer 7

Why not have a diaper shower?

Diaper showers are for every baby after the first. The idea is to have people give you essential gifts like diapers, wipes, baby soap and lotion, stuff like that.

It gives everyone a chance to get together and celebrate the baby without making a huge fuss.

Answer 8

No, its not tacky..I had 3 showers one for each baby, you may know that you dont need all that stuff but remember its his first child and hes excited, and its the first grandchild from him they want to spoil and fuss over you and your new child. I would let them but maybe instead of doing a registery suggest gift cards that way you can get the stuff you know you really need. And as for the stuff that you know you will get that you may not need, you could always donate it to a local womens shelter providing its not of sentimental value.
Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

if you've never had a baby shower, then its definatly something you want to experience for the first time!. but really, even though this isnt your first child, its ur finace's and your soon to be mother in law's first.. and if it means something to them, then you might as well celebrate it!. I can understand how it may look or feel wrong, especially since you didnt have one for your other two children, but think of it this way, celebrate their births as well on that day, talk to ur finace and see if he would mind that.. insist that you feel guilty about this and that you want to treat ur kids equally. ( this is assuming those kids are relatively young.. between 1-4). if not then dont worry about it.. instead on your kids' birthday have something a little extra, to celebrate and to make up for it. its not ur fault, you should be happy that your expecting again, why not celebrate it this time!

congrats! best of luck!

Answer 10

The baby shower is for the baby! Go for it, when your child grows up you can show him/her the pictures from their shower. You will have fun and it's a very meaningful thing for the entire family and everyone else involved...like a pre-birthday party :)